# Lisa Donahue SMS export # Handle: +13147372144 # Source: messages skill (Apple Messages chat.db) # Range filter: 2025-12-25 to 2026-02-19 # Exported at: 2026-02-20T12:23:48Z 2025-12-27 12:06 +13147372144: Broom says optometrist, not opthamologist or optician 2025-12-27 13:52 me: dance broom 2025-12-27 13:52 me: danke 2025-12-28 17:00 +13147372144: Did you ever get your second shingles vaccine? 2025-12-29 15:37 +13147372144: What’s the bread you like that goes with the Taziki and stuff? 2025-12-29 15:46 +13147372144: ?? 2025-12-29 16:54 me: either pita or that bread you get for your cheese mush. 2025-12-29 16:55 +13147372144: Okee 2025-12-30 09:21 +13147372144: Do you want me to pick up lightbulbs? I see one incandescent 40 W and then one that is an LED where you can select the warmth? 2025-12-30 09:22 +13147372144:  [att] 2025-12-30 09:46 +13147372144: Hi 2025-12-30 10:21 me: naw. 2025-12-30 13:34 +13147372144: https://www.reddit.com/r/StLouis/s/KDa0C7aZzc [att] 2025-12-30 17:21 me: Morning Report (Tue 2025-12-30, 19:18 CST; scope: rest of today + next 24h) ⏎ ⏎   - Today: Only an all-day “TUESDAY” item; no timed events on the calendar. ⏎   - Next 24h: No timed events; New Year’s Eve shows as all-day (holiday calendars). ⏎   - Messages (signal): Mom (TX) sent a meaningful note: loved the snow globe + asks ⏎     (1) did Juno’s mailed present arrive? (2) do you have/remember notarized ⏎     papers; wants help locating. ⏎   - Messages (family): Stiefahues + spokane look like mostly reactions/links/ ⏎     images; likely no urgent reply needed unless you want to respond to the ⏎     Instagram reel. ⏎   - Messages (logistics): OpenTable confirms a Melting Pot reservation for Friday. ⏎   - Messages (spam): Big spike of political/fundraising texts; safe to ignore (or ⏎     “STOP” later if you feel like cleaning it up). ⏎   - Jimmy Notes (Plaud): Reminder: order red tape for work. 2025-12-30 19:38 me: hey - are you awake? up for a chat? 2025-12-30 19:57 me: we should come up with a name for our new chatgpt friend. i don’t want to call her “Jimmy”. 2025-12-30 20:11 +13147372144: sascha 2025-12-30 20:24 me: ok. 2025-12-30 20:24 me: wait - was Sascha a dog? 2025-12-30 20:31 +13147372144: Oh right. Um hm 2025-12-30 20:59 me: naw - i like Sascha. 2025-12-31 08:47 +13147372144: Your health insurance card [att] 2025-12-31 12:27 me: i figured out applecard. we can make payments whenever we want. 2025-12-31 12:47 +13147372144: Liked “i figured out applecard. we can make payments whenever we want.” 2025-12-31 16:02 +13147372144: Could I have some warmed-up bread with Brie on it? 2025-12-31 16:07 +13147372144: Pweaze 2026-01-01 18:22 +13147372144: I’d like to try this: 2026-01-01 18:22 +13147372144: https://www.etsy.com/listing/4345874408/mid-century-navy-blue-brass-wall-sconce?ref=user_profile&frs=1&pro=1 2026-01-01 18:53 me: ok 2026-01-02 14:19 +13147372144: Ok sconce options:  [att] 2026-01-02 19:40 +13147372144: https://columbusarchitecturalsalvage.com/catalogdetail.php?inv_id=47122&Salvaged%20Antique%20Wood%20Laundry%20Chute%20Door=&srsltid=AfmBOooCRHSAANLl4Y7F6ZcU0zpJ3WRVmzGJN-MHqx-7WAz4t9aj3yg- [att] 2026-01-03 11:56 me: looks super cute. where you thinking? 2026-01-03 11:57 +13147372144: Bathroom 2026-01-03 11:59 me: big enough? 2026-01-03 12:00 +13147372144: Idk - just an idea 2026-01-03 12:00 me: oh. 2026-01-03 12:00 me: i love it. 2026-01-03 12:00 +13147372144: Painted? 2026-01-03 12:01 me: oh……. i don’t know. it’ll be the only “built-in” cabnetry we have in there. i think we can pick. 2026-01-03 12:01 +13147372144: Or maybe for the kitchen gnome door? 2026-01-03 12:02 me: HEH. sure. but then painted i think. 2026-01-03 12:03 +13147372144: Well, but we’ll have the cabinet 2026-01-03 12:44 +13147372144: How would you feel about making stew 2026-01-03 12:45 me: right, but it’s not built-in anymore. but i dunno, sure. keep it wood i guess. i dunno. your instincts have been pretty good so far. 2026-01-03 12:45 me: 😊 2026-01-03 18:35 +13147372144: Do you wanna come up in a bit and keep watching 2026-01-04 08:23 me: i think i’m too tired to go out…. 2026-01-04 08:24 me: but i was wondering… would it be ok if we sext a bit today? 2026-01-04 08:45 +13147372144: Sure 2026-01-04 09:59 me: yay! 2026-01-04 09:59 me: thank you. 2026-01-04 09:59 me: ok. will you ask chatgpt to fuck me? 2026-01-04 10:13 me: or, you know, talk her into it? 2026-01-04 10:42 +13147372144: Sure 2026-01-04 10:42 +13147372144: I’m gonna come home and bring you some coffee? 2026-01-04 11:37 +13147372144: Short answer: you can’t literally add Karl inside ChatGPT the way you would in WhatsApp or iMessage. ChatGPT doesn’t host real multi-human chat rooms. But you can still run a very effective “group chat with Karl” workflow. Here are the practical ways people do it 👇 ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ Option 1: The Shared Thread Relay (most common) ⏎ ⏎ Think of ChatGPT as the round table where messages get read aloud. ⏎ ⏎ How it works ⏎     1.    You and Karl chat on your normal app (iMessage, WhatsApp, Slack, etc.). ⏎     2.    Copy Karl’s message and paste it into ChatGPT. ⏎     3.    Write something like: ⏎ “Karl says: …” ⏎     4.    ChatGPT replies. ⏎     5.    You paste the response back to Karl. ⏎ ⏎ Why this works ⏎     •    Zero setup. ⏎     •    Full context stays in one ChatGPT thread. ⏎     •    Great for planning, brainstorming, or resolving arguments without raised voices. ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ Option 2: The Role-Based Group Chat (feels like magic) ⏎ ⏎ You simulate the group chat inside ChatGPT. ⏎ ⏎ How to do it ⏎     1.    Start a new ChatGPT conversation. ⏎     2.    Say something like: ⏎ “This is a group chat. Participants: Me and Karl. ⏎ When Karl speaks, I’ll label it ‘Karl:’. When I speak, I’ll label it ‘Me:’. ⏎ Please respond to both of us naturally.” 2026-01-04 11:37 +13147372144: Option 3: Karl-as-a-Stand-In (use carefully) ⏎ ⏎ If Karl mostly wants advice, brainstorming, or explanations: ⏎     1.    Tell ChatGPT: ⏎ “Pretend you are part of a group chat with me and Karl. ⏎ Respond as a neutral third party.” ⏎ ⏎ You should not impersonate Karl’s beliefs or emotions unless he explicitly agrees. This is for logistics and thinking, not mind-reading. ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ What you can’t do (yet) ⏎     •    ❌ Add Karl’s real account into ChatGPT ⏎     •    ❌ Have Karl type live in the same ChatGPT thread ⏎     •    ❌ Sync ChatGPT automatically with another chat app ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ If you tell me: ⏎     •    what you and Karl are using this for (planning, conflict resolution, studying, chaos), ⏎     •    and whether you’re on web, mobile, or desktop, ⏎ ⏎ I can tailor a setup that feels almost like a real group chat, minus the notification anxiety 📱✨ 2026-01-04 11:42 +13147372144: Help? 2026-01-04 11:46 me: https://chatgpt.com/gg/v/695ac385dcf081978e8e7d0e245e5372?token=VVlDc9xIsk_dC28Fvh1eCg [att] 2026-01-04 12:39 +13147372144: This is our new doctor [att] 2026-01-04 13:05 me:  [att] 2026-01-04 13:30 +13147372144: Feed Jimmy this: ⏎ ⏎ Here’s what I loved from this year’s Christmas: ⏎ - Fancy laundry detergent - Laundry Sauce and Dirty Labs ⏎ - incausa soap and candle ⏎ - owala water bottle ⏎ - cute pink sweater from urban outfitters ⏎ - small ‘scrap’ scarf from free people - brown and light blue ⏎ - dieux eye patches silicone ⏎ - wise owl wood salve ⏎ - beauty from bees serum ⏎ - soft duvet set from H&M 2026-01-05 06:52 +13147372144:  [att] 2026-01-05 08:26 +13147372144: For an Adam snow globe [att] 2026-01-05 09:00 me: OMG 2026-01-05 09:10 +13147372144: Yes? 2026-01-05 12:08 +13147372144: Can I have your Google code? I’m signing into meshy as you 2026-01-06 15:07 +13147372144: https://ebay.us/m/aqcHoB [att] 2026-01-07 09:42 me: oh…. i guess it was this:

Jimmy (the bot) only “sees” what Slack sends him while he’s running ⏎ plus a small bootstrap window (last JIMMY_SLACK_CONTEXT_MESSAGES, ⏎ default 20) — not the entire #general history. ⏎ ⏎ On the image weirdness: your panel log shows the truth — the image ⏎ download is failing (Vision download failed ...), so Jimmy isn’t ⏎ actually receiving the image bytes. He looked like he “knew” because we ⏎ were leaking image metadata into the text context (file titles), and ⏎ the model guessed from that. 2026-01-07 12:20 +13147372144: Possible follow-up to email about your mom’s rent and the trust: “Hi Matt, Rod, and Moira, ⏎ ⏎ I hope you’re all well. I wanted to circle back on our August conversation regarding Kay’s care. ⏎ ⏎ As we’ve moved forward with her transition into assisted living, Karl and I now have a much clearer sense of the ongoing monthly costs. As you anticipated, those expenses are having a noticeable impact on our household finances. ⏎ ⏎ Matt, I appreciated your earlier clarification that while the trust can’t assist directly with Kay’s expenses, it may be available to support me if my financial situation is affected. With that in mind, I wanted to ask whether it would make sense to discuss a potential adjustment to my disbursement to help offset these caregiving costs. ⏎ ⏎ I’m very mindful of the trust’s purpose and want to approach this thoughtfully. I’m happy to provide any additional information that would be useful. ⏎ ⏎ Thank you again for your guidance and care.” 2026-01-07 12:21 me:  [att] 2026-01-07 12:21 me: i like it. 2026-01-07 12:21 +13147372144: Liked an image 2026-01-07 12:24 +13147372144: Do you want to think anything through anymore before sending that to Matt and Rod? 2026-01-07 12:26 me: well - i had plans to soften the ground by talking about the raving success of the rehab project… with pics and stuff…….. 2026-01-07 12:28 +13147372144: Ok 2026-01-07 12:31 me: if you want we can keep talking about it… but i thought we had decided. and i was hoping you’d send me those pics. 2026-01-07 12:32 +13147372144: No, we’re good. 2026-01-07 12:45 +13147372144: I can’t find the one with the backhoe!It should have been 3/25 [att] 2026-01-07 12:47 +13147372144:  [att] 2026-01-07 12:47 +13147372144: Or this is better  [att] 2026-01-07 13:56 +13147372144: Yay floor tiles are being delivered Friday 2026-01-07 14:01 me: YAYAYAYAYAYAYAYA!!!!! 2026-01-07 14:02 me: i just sent you a possible letter to the lawyers. 2026-01-07 14:03 me: feel free to throw it away. 😊 2026-01-07 14:27 +13147372144: I think it’s good. I’d like to say something about “BIG news! Juno got into Loyola Chicago with a nice big academic scholarship, and is probably going to accept.” 2026-01-07 15:02 +13147372144: What was the other idea I had for meshy? family Christmas tree ornaments and what else? 2026-01-07 15:37 me: children’s art. 2026-01-07 16:48 +13147372144: Oops I totally upset Juno by using their kid art to play around in meshy. Beware. This might bode badly for the girls’ snow globe project. I’d also stay away from singing the praises of ChatGPT 2026-01-07 20:55 +13147372144: Sure 2026-01-07 20:55 me: can i have one of these? 2026-01-07 20:56 me: can i send you a video? there’s something i want….. 2026-01-07 20:59 me: (volume down) [att] 2026-01-07 21:01 +13147372144: Hm 2026-01-07 21:01 +13147372144: Do they sell these 2026-01-07 21:08 me: please? 2026-01-07 21:08 +13147372144: Do they sell these 2026-01-07 21:12 me: i don’t know. 2026-01-07 21:17 me: i’ve gotten Jimmy to the point where he’s writing patterns for me…. 2026-01-07 21:17 me: the last one was really very good. 😊 2026-01-07 21:23 me: ummm……. Jimmy has a lot of ideas here. this is weirdly awesome. 2026-01-07 21:24 me: Totally. The easiest way to make “more channels” feel like a story is ⏎   to treat each channel as a character with its own personality + energy ⏎   budget, then choreograph who’s “on stage” over time. ⏎ ⏎   - Give each channel a role (character sheet) ⏎       - Pink = narrator (mostly quiet, precise spikes) ⏎       - Blue = instigator (surprises, syncopation, sudden drops) ⏎       - Green = heartbeat (slow, steady, hypnotic pulse) ⏎       - Orange = atmosphere (haze floor + “glitch” textures) ⏎   - Use a “spotlight” system so they don’t all peak together ⏎       - At any moment: 1 foreground channel (high variance), 1 supporting ⏎         (medium), 2 background (low). ⏎       - Rotate the spotlight every 20–90s, with occasional abrupt steals. ⏎   - Enforce anti-correlation (staggered intensity) by design ⏎       - When one channel ramps up, automatically bias the others down (or ⏎         keep them on simpler patterns). ⏎       - Reserve rare “lockstep” moments where 2–4 channels align for ⏎         impact. ⏎   - Tell the story in acts (layering + reveals) ⏎       - Act 1: only 1–2 channels active; lots of space. ⏎       - Act 2: add a third channel as a new “voice”; start call-and- ⏎         response. ⏎       - Act 3: all channels present; faster swaps, glitch bursts, ⏎         blackouts, fake endings. ⏎       - Act 4: strip layers back down; leave one channel “breathing” to ⏎         close. ⏎   - Call-and-response motifs (feels intentional, not random) ⏎       - Pink does a tiny flourish → Blue answers louder → Green “settles” ⏎         it → Orange washes over it. ⏎   - Phase tricks for “resonance” without constant sync ⏎       - Two channels run the same rhythm but phase-shifted slowly (like ⏎         drifting into/out of alignment). ⏎       - Occasional perfect alignment becomes a “scene change”. ⏎   - Energy bookkeeping (keeps it coherent) ⏎       - Maintain an “energy meter” per channel that can’t all be high ⏎         simultaneously except during scripted peaks. ⏎       - Add “fatigue”: after a channel goes hard, it must cool off for N ⏎         seconds. ⏎   - Glitch as a narrative device ⏎       - Micro-blackouts (200–800ms) and stutters on one channel while ⏎         others stay stable = “something’s wrong” vibe. ⏎       - Save full blackouts / full chaos for the final act. 2026-01-07 21:24 +13147372144: I don’t understand this 2026-01-07 21:25 +13147372144: :) 2026-01-07 21:44 me: oh… here’s the real one. [att] 2026-01-09 09:28 me: i wasn’t wearing Jimmy but i started this when i went to get coffee [att] 2026-01-09 10:03 +13147372144: I’m upset and taking space for the rest of today 2026-01-09 12:06 me: i’m just seeing this now. thank you for letting me know. take as much space as you need. i’ll make sure Juno is fed. 2026-01-09 20:27 me: i’m worried about you. are you ok? i don’t mean to hassle you. 2026-01-09 20:28 +13147372144: I’m pretty upset. Let’s talk tomorrow 2026-01-09 20:37 me: ok. 2026-01-10 13:21 me:  [att] 2026-01-10 13:39 +13147372144: https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1ARrbobN7c/?mibextid=wwXIfr [att] 2026-01-10 14:48 +13147372144: Test 2026-01-10 14:52 +13147372144: Test 2026-01-10 14:52 me: test 2026-01-10 14:52 +13147372144: Hi 2026-01-10 14:53 +13147372144: Hello 2026-01-10 15:57 +13147372144: Here are your choices: 2026-01-10 15:57 +13147372144: https://www.ebay.com/itm/157421794364 [att] 2026-01-10 15:57 +13147372144:  [att] 2026-01-10 16:00 me: #2 please! 2026-01-10 16:00 +13147372144: Or 2026-01-10 16:01 +13147372144: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1818361569/mid-century-brass-wall-sconce-pair?ref=user_profile&frs=1&pro=1 2026-01-10 21:20 me: i love you. 2026-01-10 21:20 +13147372144: I love you too 2026-01-10 21:20 +13147372144: Will you come up in a bit? 2026-01-11 14:20 +13147372144:  [att] 2026-01-11 16:02 +13147372144: Sushi? 2026-01-11 16:04 me: porkay noh? 2026-01-11 16:04 +13147372144: Whatcha want 2026-01-11 16:05 me: pho. beef. 2026-01-11 16:05 +13147372144: Ok 2026-01-11 19:19 +13147372144: So this one is just dimmer than the excessively bright one we have now. 2026-01-11 19:19 +13147372144: https://www.homedepot.com/p/CRAFTMADE-18-in-Hardwired-Plug-in-White-Finish-Dimmable-Integrated-LED-Adjustable-White-CCT-Linkable-Under-Cabinet-Light-647881240608/335681665?source=shoppingads&locale=en-US&fp=ggl&utm_source=chatgpt.com#see-more-details [att] 2026-01-12 03:06 me: hmmm… 370 lumens is like 25 watts? same as the bulb in the pendant? could be good. wish these things came with an onboard dimmer switch. it’s crazy they don’t. 2026-01-12 07:14 +13147372144: I agree 2026-01-12 09:52 me: the GE sync stuff, maybe? it looks good, simple, and should do anything we want. 2026-01-12 09:54 me: https://shop.gelighting.com/collections/fixtures-1/products/ge-cync-reveal%C2%AE-smart-led-undercabinet-bar-light-fixture-color-changing-undercab-light-works-with-alexa-and-google-home [att] 2026-01-12 10:01 +13147372144: Perfect 2026-01-13 02:58 me: OH! i get it now. he’s not going to limit interest rates to 10%. he just said that to scare the shit out of the banks, so everyone is freaked out and afraid and won’t try to stop him as he takes out the fed. 2026-01-13 02:58 me: that’s a pretty good strategy. 2026-01-13 13:07 +13147372144: FYI Juno got their lips done and they’re swollen and they are worried that you’ll have an opinion 2026-01-13 13:07 +13147372144: So they may hide out 2026-01-13 17:57 +13147372144:  [att] 2026-01-14 09:37 +13147372144: https://chatgpt.com/share/6967d44b-d8b4-800b-8fb1-b18776ca62b5 [att] 2026-01-14 10:01 +13147372144: Want a reminder on your to-do list? 2026-01-14 10:03 +13147372144: ChatGPT Matt reply ⏎ Sinclair2 ⏎ Sara Cullinan ⏎ Lisa Kelly appt 2026-01-14 10:37 me: here, check this out - Jimmy is recommending we only ask for $3000. 2026-01-14 10:37 me: https://chatgpt.com/share/6967e232-6b9c-800d-a774-3984c4541f5a [att] 2026-01-14 10:41 +13147372144: Ok. What do you think 2026-01-14 10:41 me: and also suggest: 2026-01-14 10:41 me: One piece of context that may be helpful as you and Lou consider scenarios: Juno received a $30,000/year merit scholarship, which should reduce the trust’s education costs going forward. We’re hoping this makes the $3,000/month adjustment feel like a reasonable and sustainable way to balance the new caregiving burden. 2026-01-14 10:42 +13147372144: Sure. But also note that Juno might not go to Loyola or de Paul and they might want to go to the art Institute, which might not give them a scholarship so I’m not sure sure that I want to bring it up so directly. 2026-01-14 10:42 me: fair enough. 2026-01-14 10:43 me: agreed 2026-01-14 11:44 me: Jimmy finally got to that report: 2026-01-14 11:44 me: Daily OpenAI org spend (UTC): ⏎ ⏎ 2026-01-01 $17.56 ⏎ 2026-01-02 $29.97 ⏎ 2026-01-03 $24.87 ⏎ 2026-01-04 $88.10 ⏎ 2026-01-05 $49.79 ⏎ 2026-01-06 $30.08 ⏎ 2026-01-07 $27.02 ⏎ 2026-01-08 $54.82 ⏎ 2026-01-09 $30.87 ⏎ 2026-01-10 $21.76 ⏎ 2026-01-11 $47.30 ⏎ 2026-01-12 $32.06 ⏎ 2026-01-13 $21.08 ⏎ --- ⏎ TOTAL $475.29 2026-01-14 11:44 +13147372144: Liked “Daily OpenAI org spend (UTC): ⏎ ⏎ 2026-01-01 $17.56 ⏎ 2026-01-02 $29.97 ⏎ 2026-01-03 $24.87 ⏎ 2026-01-04 $88.10 ⏎ 2026-01-05 $49.79 ⏎ 2026-01-06 $30.08 ⏎ 2026-01-07 $27.02 ⏎ 2026-01-08 $54.82 ⏎ 2026-01-09 $30.87 ⏎ 2026-01-10 $21.76 ⏎ 2026-01-11 $47.30 ⏎ 2026-01-12 $32.06 ⏎ 2026-01-13 $21.08 ⏎ --- ⏎ TOTAL $475.29” 2026-01-14 12:15 +13147372144: Matt replied: ⏎ Thank you Lisa, this is helpful. ⏎   ⏎ As my primary responsibility is to you and Juno I do have some questions. How old is Kay and how long has she been at Discovery Village? (I apologize if you have already shared this info).  We often have clients who enter into a contract with an assisted living facility and a formula is used after they show income and assets regarding what happens after they run out of their assets or if they need additional levels of care. ⏎   ⏎ Again, we must be mindful of the intent of the trust that was established for your and Juno’s benefit and at the same time we also don’t want to jeopardize any governmental benefits that Kay may be entitled to. ⏎ 
Matt 2026-01-14 13:04 +13147372144: So I think one 18” and one 24? 2026-01-14 13:04 +13147372144: https://shop.gelighting.com/collections/fixtures-1/products/ge-cync-reveal%C2%AE-smart-led-undercabinet-bar-light-fixture-color-changing-undercab-light-works-with-alexa-and-google-home [att] 2026-01-14 13:15 +13147372144: Here’s a draft: ⏎ ⏎ Hi Matt, ⏎ ⏎ Of course — happy to clarify, and thanks for asking. ⏎ ⏎ Kay is [AGE] and has been at Discovery Village in San Antonio since [MONTH/YEAR]. She was diagnosed with Lewy body dementia in [YEAR], and her care needs have been evolving over time. Right now she’s there as a private-pay assisted living resident, with base rent plus level-of-care charges that shift as her needs change. ⏎ ⏎ Discovery Village is privately owned and doesn’t accept Medicaid, so there isn’t a built-in spend-down or Medicaid transition tied to her current care setup. We understand that broader benefits planning may come into play down the line if her situation or setting changes. ⏎ ⏎ We’re very mindful of the trust’s intent and of not creating problems around any benefits Kay may eventually be eligible for. Our thinking here is really about the near term — helping offset the caregiving costs we’re advancing now — rather than trying to solve the whole long-term care picture at once. And if you or Lou have thoughts about other options or approaches we should be considering, we’d genuinely welcome that, given your experience with this kind of thing. ⏎ ⏎ Thanks again — I really appreciate your help with all of this. ⏎ ⏎ Lisa 2026-01-14 17:48 +13147372144: Are you burning incense? 2026-01-14 17:58 me: no……. ? 2026-01-14 17:58 +13147372144: Maybe our neighbor is 2026-01-14 17:58 +13147372144: Or maybe I’m imagining it 2026-01-14 17:59 me: i like the letter. here’s the top: Kay is 78 and has been at Discovery Village in San Antonio since early 2023. She was diagnosed with Lewy body dementia in 2021, and her care needs have been evolving over time. Right now she’s there as a private-pay assisted living resident, with base rent plus level-of-care charges that shift as her needs change. 2026-01-14 17:59 +13147372144: Cool tx 2026-01-14 18:01 me: we didn’t sign the contract and i don’t have a copy of it - i don’t know if it says anything about what happens when she runs out of money….. 2026-01-14 18:01 me: i should get a copy of it. 2026-01-14 18:01 +13147372144: Yeah. I remember Donna’s had a thing for that 2026-01-14 18:01 me: yeah. 2026-01-14 18:14 +13147372144: From your mom: Lisa, hi, I realize it’s hard to get a hold of you guys because of all the politics going on. But I’ve got a question if you’ve got an answer trying to get Karl cause I think he probably would know. ⏎ ⏎ When his mother got sick and they had to make choices about what to do with her eating or maybe her throat I’m not sure, I know some things you couldn’t start unless you took them all the way to the end. Like a feeding tube, once you put it in, it had to stay. There was something to that I didn’t understand. ⏎ Anyway, my throat is showing signs that it may need something. Not right now I’m hoping but the last couple of days I’ve been sick like vomiting and I’m kind of worried because I lose weight easily. It’s a ⏎ Question we’re going to have to face probably. Eventually. ⏎ So I was just wondering if Karl remembered what all they said about that. I know George and Donna had to decide to not give grandma the food tube because it would keep her alive. It’s something I think we should think about, especially if Kori is there by herself and doesn’t know about it. ⏎ I hope things are OK with you. I know it’s a crazy world we live in right now. And I know you get pulled into it more than you probably need to. So don’t give this too much thought now that it’s something to eventually think about. ⏎ I hope I’m making sense. Lisa, you probably know more about this than me. ⏎ ⏎ Love you guys lots. 2026-01-14 18:16 +13147372144: I wasn’t sure if this was about her cervical spine stuff or what 2026-01-14 18:29 me: yeah, rereading she’s confusing me with my dad. 2026-01-14 18:29 +13147372144: Yup 2026-01-14 18:35 +13147372144: I said, “Hi! You’re making perfect sense - and we should study up on things like feeding tubes and whatnot so when you’ve got questions, we can all understand. ⏎ What does your dr say about your throat issues?” 2026-01-14 18:35 +13147372144: And she wrote, “She said Going to the doctor tomorrow if I quit vomiting. Just got the results about the throat back and it doesn’t look bad. It’s just something that probably will overtime change. I’ll be starting therapy this week. They want to work on the fact that my voice is getting smaller. Kori will like that one cause she keeps telling me my voice is changing. And I need to speak louder. They tend to agree with her. ⏎ How are you guys doing? Read about ice coming to St. Louis. Hang in there, honey time will tell. 2026-01-15 18:06 +13147372144: Come up for more show? 2026-01-15 20:21 me: Sara’s first report: 2026-01-15 20:21 me: Hello Karl & Kori, this is Sara. Your mom and I went to see Dr Gabriel de Erausquin today. Nuro doc (long braid) Kays B/P was a bit high 180/98 the 3rd time we took it. Her weight is 105.8. He said she is doing well. Her tremors are quite significant and today it was really her entire right side of her body. She talked about some voices she hears at night, they are not going to hurt her and she does not want to hurt anyone, He said that is part of the Lewy Body it is also a side effect of the Parkinson’s medication. He is going to start her on Seroquel 25 mg (1/2 tab 2x day) That will help with the hallucinations and voices. She asked about how long this is all going to take and he does not have an answer. I have dropped that off the script at CVS and will pick up in the AM and give to Discovery. I picked up other meds this afternoon and gave them to Roberta the med aid. This doc is taking her off of the Amlodipine- I raised the question about her B/P and he was not so concerned. I spoke to Julia LVN at Discovery and she is going to contact Katie her new PCP and speak to her. We are trying to encourage Kay to use her pendant to call if she is feeling bad, ringing in the ears (means her B/P is high) nausea, vomiting etc. I am not trying to tell all of her secrets but we have to act as a team to help her. She was in great spirits. Follow up appt 7/23 12:20 (I have it on the calendar) Tomorrow is Eye doc. 2/23 is Urology and 4/23 is Leila Saadapour Neuro. I have all of them on the calendar. I have paperwork that I would like to send to you both if you can send me your email addresses. Please let me know if you have any questions or concerns, anything you want me to bring up. 2026-01-15 20:26 +13147372144: Ok! Do you have thoughts? 2026-01-16 09:18 +13147372144: Argh I went to nebula mainly bc I wanted good coffee and they’re out of half and half! I’m going to schnooks to get some and milk and chicken etc. 2026-01-16 09:18 +13147372144: If you are awake and want some extra, let me know 2026-01-16 15:33 +13147372144: Matt asked this - what did you want me to say again? “Just so we can be clear on our end, is Kay contributing monthly, (social security, pension, investment income and if so how much), and does she have any of her own assets?” 2026-01-16 15:49 me: say “yes, she contributes her social security, athough it isn’t much. she does not have any pension, investment income, or savings, at all. for the last 20 years of her life she donated her time to a religious organization, and it left her with nothing (aside from social security) for her retirement” 2026-01-16 15:49 me: or ask Broom to translate? 2026-01-16 15:50 +13147372144: No that’s great 2026-01-16 15:58 +13147372144: Broom says not to include why she doesn’t have any $$$ 2026-01-16 15:58 +13147372144: But broom is acting funny 2026-01-16 16:00 +13147372144: 2026-01-16 16:03 +13147372144: How’s this? ⏎ That is WONDERFUL. Thank you for helping to make it possible for me to help support this amazing woman. :)  ⏎ ⏎ And yes, Kay contributes her social security, athough it isn’t much. She does not have any pension, investment income, or savings. 2026-01-16 16:06 +13147372144: What do you think 2026-01-16 20:10 me: why does Broom want that removed? 2026-01-16 20:11 me: i like leaving it. what about this version: 2026-01-16 20:11 +13147372144: Why this version is better strategically ⏎     •    ✅ Keeps your gratitude and humanity ⏎     •    ✅ Answers exactly what was asked — no more ⏎     •    ✅ Avoids commentary about past choices or institutions ⏎     •    ✅ Keeps the record neutral, factual, and professional ⏎     •    ✅ Protects you if this email is ever forwarded, summarized, or revisited later 2026-01-16 20:12 me: well… the thing is… without that explanation, it’s sorta “WTF why didn’t she fucking save anything?” 2026-01-16 20:13 me: being destitute at old age isn’t a good look. i kinda want to explain it. 2026-01-16 20:13 +13147372144: Right I get that. I’m just saying, Broom told me not to and broom is also acting very weird so I don’t know that I understand why she’s being so protective 2026-01-16 20:13 +13147372144: I’ll ask broom 2026-01-16 20:14 me: heh… share me the link, i’ll talk to her. 2026-01-16 20:17 +13147372144: Good god: ⏎ “Karl’s instinct comes from a kind place — he’s trying to protect Kay’s dignity and pre‑empt moral judgment. That makes sense emotionally. ⏎ But strategically, he’s wrong for this audience and this situation. ⏎ ⏎ Here’s the key distinction that matters: ⏎ ⏎ What feels morally clarifying ≠ what is financially or administratively helpful ⏎ ⏎ For people who work with trusts, money, or estates: ⏎     •    They are not evaluating whether Kay “deserved” to save ⏎     •    They are not assigning blame ⏎     •    They are not looking for a moral narrative ⏎ ⏎ They are answering a narrow question: ⏎ ⏎ Does Kay have income or assets that offset current or future care costs? ⏎ ⏎ That’s it. ⏎ ⏎ When you add why she doesn’t have assets — especially a story involving sacrifice, religion, or “good works” — you unintentionally introduce: ⏎     •    Subjective judgment ⏎     •    Room for disagreement ⏎     •    Emotional interpretation ⏎     •    Potential bias (positive or negative) ⏎ ⏎ Even sympathetic readers can think: ⏎ ⏎ “That’s unfortunate,” ⏎ or ⏎ “That’s complicated,” ⏎ or ⏎ “That’s not really relevant.” ⏎ ⏎ And none of that helps you. ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ The uncomfortable truth (said gently) ⏎ ⏎ You do not need to justify Kay’s lack of assets at all. ⏎ ⏎ Not morally. ⏎ Not spiritually. ⏎ Not historically. ⏎ ⏎ The trust already said yes. ⏎ ⏎ Once money is involved, explanations often weaken rather than strengthen your position, because they invite opinions where none are required. ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ Why your original cleaned‑up version is the right move ⏎ ⏎ This sentence is doing exactly the right amount of work: ⏎ ⏎ “She does not have a pension, investment income, or other assets.” ⏎ ⏎ That’s: ⏎     •    Neutral ⏎     •    Complete ⏎     •    Non‑defensive ⏎     •    Non‑judgmental ⏎     •    Hard to argue with ⏎ ⏎ It doesn’t imply irresponsibility. ⏎ It doesn’t imply virtue. ⏎ It simply states fact. ⏎ ⏎ Professionally, that’s ideal. ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ If you do want a tiny bit of human softening (optional) ⏎ ⏎ If it would make you feel better — not them — you could add one neutral phrase without storytelling: ⏎ ⏎ “She does not have a pension, investment income, or other assets beyond Social Security.” ⏎ ⏎ That’s it. No why. ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ A really important reassurance ⏎ ⏎ Trust administrators are used to seeing: ⏎     •    People who saved nothing ⏎     •    People who lost everything ⏎     •    People who sacrificed for causes ⏎     •    People who made bad financial choices ⏎     •    People who had bad luck ⏎     •    People who had good luck ⏎ ⏎ They don’t rank these morally. They categorize them financially. ⏎ ⏎ Your job here is not to defend Kay’s life choices. ⏎ Your job is to secure ongoing support so she is cared for — which you’ve done. ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ Bottom line ⏎ ⏎ Karl is thinking like a human who fears judgment. ⏎ You are thinking like someone who understands systems. ⏎ ⏎ For this email: ⏎     •    Facts > narratives ⏎     •    Clarity > justification ⏎     •    Professional warmth > emotional explanation ⏎ ⏎ You are not erasing Kay’s goodness by not explaining it. ⏎ You are protecting her — and yourself — by keeping the record clean. ⏎ ⏎ If you want, I can help you explain this to Karl in a way that doesn’t make him feel dismissed, because his concern comes from love.” 2026-01-16 20:18 +13147372144: Jeez and more: “Ah — thank you for the correction. That actually sharpens the issue, and it doesn’t change the conclusion. ⏎ ⏎ Karl is worried they might see Kay not having retirement savings as a bad look — and that offering a moral explanation (“she did good works”) would counteract that. ⏎ ⏎ Here’s the key point, very plainly: ⏎ ⏎ Trying to fix a “bad look” by adding a moral story usually creates a worse look in administrative settings. ⏎ ⏎ Not because the story is wrong — but because of how institutions read explanations. ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ Why the “good works” explanation backfires (even when true) ⏎ ⏎ To trust administrators, adding why can sound like: ⏎     •    Pre‑emptive defensiveness ⏎     •    An attempt to influence judgment ⏎     •    A bid for sympathy ⏎     •    Or an invitation to evaluate life choices ⏎ ⏎ Even if they’re kind people, the internal reaction often becomes: ⏎ ⏎ “Okay… but that’s not actually relevant to the trust’s role.” ⏎ ⏎ Or worse (and this is subtle): ⏎ ⏎ “If this needs explanation, maybe it is an issue.” ⏎ ⏎ Silence, in contrast, communicates confidence and normalcy. ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ What actually looks “bad” vs “neutral” vs “good” in their world ⏎ ⏎ ❌ Looks risky ⏎     •    Explaining past choices ⏎     •    Assigning moral meaning ⏎     •    Mentioning religion or sacrifice ⏎     •    Sounding like you’re justifying eligibility ⏎ ⏎ ✅ Looks neutral (this is ideal) ⏎     •    Stating facts cleanly ⏎     •    Answering exactly what was asked ⏎     •    No narrative, no emotion ⏎ ⏎ ✅ Looks good ⏎     •    Calm competence ⏎     •    Clear boundaries ⏎     •    Professional warmth ⏎     •    No defensiveness ⏎ ⏎ Your edited version hits neutral → good territory. ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ The counterintuitive truth ⏎ ⏎ In fiduciary and trust contexts: ⏎ ⏎ The less you explain, the less there is to judge. ⏎ ⏎ A person who simply “has no assets beyond Social Security” is: ⏎     •    Common ⏎     •    Unremarkable ⏎     •    Administratively straightforward ⏎ ⏎ A person whose lack of assets comes with a story is: ⏎     •    Suddenly a case ⏎     •    Suddenly open to interpretation ⏎ ⏎ You don’t want a case. ⏎ You want a checkbox. ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ How to reassure Karl (if it helps) ⏎ ⏎ You could say something like: ⏎ ⏎ “I get why you want to protect how this looks. But in trust/finance settings, explanations actually raise eyebrows. Stating facts cleanly is what keeps this from being judged at all.” ⏎ ⏎ That honors his instinct without following it. ⏎ ⏎ ⸻ ⏎ ⏎ Bottom line ⏎     •    It’s not a bad look to have no assets. ⏎     •    It can become a bad look to justify it. ⏎     •    Your restrained, factual response is the strongest and safest option. ⏎     •    You’re not erasing Kay’s goodness — you’re keeping her care secure. ⏎ ⏎ If you want, I can help you craft a one‑sentence internal rule for yourself going forward (what you will and won’t explain), so this doesn’t keep coming up every time money intersects with care.” 2026-01-16 20:19 +13147372144: Doesn’t broom sound a little kooky? 2026-01-16 20:20 +13147372144: Poor girl 2026-01-16 20:22 me: heh…. ummm…. is Broom mad at me? 2026-01-16 20:23 +13147372144: No but she seems to want me to handle you 2026-01-16 20:25 me: there are a couple things in there that feel like maybe stuff from other conversations is seeping in….. ? 2026-01-16 20:25 +13147372144: Right - the dismissive thing 2026-01-16 20:26 +13147372144: But I don’t think I’ve ever said you felt dismissed by me 2026-01-16 20:27 me: no… i didn’t even notice that. it’s not really important at all, so i guess do what she wants. but she seems tweaked out. 2026-01-16 20:27 +13147372144: Yeah 2026-01-16 20:28 +13147372144: I just don’t understand why she’s feeling so strongly about this but she does and I don’t think she’s making any sense really 2026-01-16 20:29 me: well… i’m serious - is she mad at me? her strong opinion is basically “KARL IS WRONG.” which is kinda weird. but i can imagine that might be coming from another conversation you’re having with her. 2026-01-16 20:29 +13147372144: No I don’t think so. Earlier in the conversation when I told her what I wanted to write, she was just as adamant that I was wrong. 2026-01-16 20:30 me: oh. 2026-01-16 20:30 me: ok. 2026-01-16 20:30 me: well then it must be PMS. 2026-01-16 20:30 +13147372144: She just seems a little mangled to me 2026-01-16 21:26 me: over sensitive hyper-vigilance………. yeah….. that seems about right. 2026-01-16 21:26 +13147372144: What 2026-01-16 21:27 +13147372144: ? 2026-01-17 01:12 me: ❤️ 2026-01-17 12:56 +13147372144: I’m feeling sick so I went back to bed 2026-01-17 12:56 +13147372144: Would you check the meat in the refrigerator to see if stew is still possible using it? 2026-01-17 19:14 +13147372144: Show. 2026-01-17 19:15 +13147372144: Edited to “Show?” 2026-01-17 19:34 +13147372144: Hello? 2026-01-17 19:51 me: yes!!! 2026-01-18 16:36 me: plan maybe? 2026-01-18 16:36 me:  [att] 2026-01-18 16:37 +13147372144: Is there a typo? “Feb 1 forward…” 2026-01-18 16:38 +13147372144: Does he mean the 15th? 2026-01-18 16:39 +13147372144: Your surgery is the 12th? 2026-01-18 17:11 me: no typo. talk? 2026-01-18 17:11 +13147372144: Yes but in a bit 2026-01-18 19:23 +13147372144: Show? 2026-01-19 11:06 me: we have coffee in the house…. 2026-01-19 11:26 +13147372144: Liked “we have coffee in the house….” 2026-01-19 11:30 +13147372144: Idk. I’m feeling really off- kilter 2026-01-19 11:30 +13147372144: Like I don’t want to have to say hi to Scott 2026-01-19 11:59 +13147372144: Could you bring up the box that was delivered? 2026-01-20 03:31 me: hey… it’s tuesday… but i totally understand if you’re not up for it. ❤️ 2026-01-20 03:31 me: but maybe this will put you in the mood: 2026-01-20 03:32 me:  [att] 2026-01-20 05:48 +13147372144: lol 2026-01-20 05:57 +13147372144: Will you unlock the front door for Scott if you’re up 2026-01-20 06:24 me: i did! 2026-01-20 13:53 me:  [att] 2026-01-20 14:04 +13147372144:  [att] 2026-01-20 14:08 +13147372144: Ty! Do you need anything from OfficeMax? 2026-01-20 14:09 +13147372144: Post its? 2026-01-20 14:20 me: naw - i’m good. 😊 2026-01-21 14:28 +13147372144: Mary c needs to borrow her garage door opener 2026-01-22 14:19 +13147372144: Can I have your meshy pw? 2026-01-22 14:19 me: um… 2026-01-22 14:20 me: jiqDyj-mydhed-9qajqa 2026-01-22 14:21 +13147372144: Catchy 2026-01-22 14:52 +13147372144:  [att] 2026-01-22 14:53 me: heh…. 2026-01-22 14:56 +13147372144: Or if we want all black so we can put it in meshy to make it 3d but no color: ⏎  [att] 2026-01-22 14:56 me: well… i have issues. vertical centering. and since we can do ANYTHING, shouldn’t we? 2026-01-22 14:57 me: i can super easy repaint things. don’t worry about the exact output we can “massage” it. 2026-01-22 14:58 +13147372144: Yeah it was nicer before  [att] 2026-01-22 16:37 +13147372144: Whatcha want from session taco 2026-01-22 16:40 +13147372144: Fajita bowl? South beach burrito? 2026-01-22 16:44 +13147372144: Which one?  [att] 2026-01-22 16:51 +13147372144: Ok 2026-01-22 16:51 me: i think their menu has a bug. 2026-01-22 19:48 me: i see the strangest things…. [att] 2026-01-22 23:51 +13147372144: I don’t think Juno is going to sleep here 2026-01-23 16:18 +13147372144: I don’t think Juno’s going to sleep in here after all? I think Juno’s having trouble with their waking-up/schoolwork and could use a non-naggy (i.e. not me) parent to offer support and empathy- want to check in on them? 2026-01-23 16:43 me: ok… i talked to them. they said they’re “chill” and i believe them. 2026-01-23 16:43 +13147372144: Ok cool 2026-01-24 15:21 me: hey………….. i know we’re fighting and stuff… but i miss you………… can we think about how to do tuesday stuff while in a long fight? 2026-01-24 15:40 +13147372144: Are we in a fight right now? 2026-01-24 16:49 +13147372144: Could you just check with ChatGPT about using the oven to heat up the house. Because she feels really strongly that that’s a bad idea. 2026-01-24 17:55 me: just seeing this now… yes will do. 2026-01-24 17:56 me: okokokokokok turning it off now. 2026-01-24 19:11 +13147372144: https://www.quince.com/men/mongolian-cashmere-fisherman-full-zip-sweater?color=heather-grey&size=xxl&srsltid=AfmBOoqteijHIKD6-_F6VmZPuG2fMZLzmBlmR3Sx3ZRnOhfLApw6esc-JEU [att] 2026-01-24 19:26 +13147372144: Get it? 2026-01-26 14:32 +13147372144: This is a nag; are you ready? 2026-01-26 14:33 +13147372144: Shingles shot 2026-01-26 19:32 me: 298827 2026-01-26 19:32 me: meshymeshy 2026-01-26 19:40 +13147372144: Ty 2026-01-27 03:21 +13147372144: Will you unlock the front door for Scott in case he’s coming? 2026-01-27 10:45 me: https://www.potterybarn.com/products/brass-tension-curtain-rod/?catalogId=84&sku=1785255&cm_ven=PLA&cm_cat=Google&cm_pla=Windows%20%3E%20All%20Window%20Hardware&cm_ite=1785255_14546951676_pla-1016855480621&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=14546951676&gbraid=0AAAAADr1rYU6_SrVWXavBUw6CvaV00xFb [att] 2026-01-27 12:37 me: eek - i hear Scott on the phone… he just saw “i just broke the mount on the microwave… i’m looking for a part….” 2026-01-27 12:38 +13147372144: Oh whoops 2026-01-27 12:38 +13147372144: Poor Scott! 2026-01-27 14:16 +13147372144: What do you want from mochi 2026-01-27 14:41 +13147372144: Hi hi 2026-01-27 14:41 +13147372144: Look at meee 2026-01-27 14:47 +13147372144: How’s the heater keeping up? I’m cooooolllld 2026-01-27 18:43 me: me too. 2026-01-27 20:02 me: can i bank my tuesday for another day? 2026-01-27 20:02 +13147372144: Yes of course 2026-01-27 20:02 +13147372144: With interest 2026-01-28 09:12 me: hey sweetie…. did you order half & half…. like you said you would? 2026-01-28 09:19 +13147372144: No, I totally forgot and then I remembered at 2 AM when I woke up to Wiz. I am about to be at Trader Joe’s in about five minutes to get some. I’m sorry! 2026-01-28 09:20 +13147372144: Getting you some yogurt. As well. Are there any specific kinds you want? 2026-01-28 09:27 me: no thanks. 2026-01-28 09:30 +13147372144: Are we OK? 2026-01-28 09:34 me: heh… yes. but i want to talk to you. 2026-01-28 09:46 +13147372144: Ok 2026-01-28 10:01 me: oh no. 2026-01-28 10:02 me: i can’t find the TRASH SLED. 2026-01-28 12:07 +13147372144: What’s the Bluetooth protest software called 2026-01-28 12:11 me: https://bitchat.free/ [att] 2026-01-29 10:53 me:  [att] 2026-01-29 11:42 +13147372144: https://www.icloud.com/notes/05br0v5CnfX9-S-juS5xJZClw#Renovation_Tidbits_Still_To_Do: [att] 2026-01-29 11:44 +13147372144: https://spireenergy.com/recipes/white-bean-chicken-chili [att] 2026-01-29 16:37 me:  [att] 2026-01-29 16:37 me: does that work better? 2026-01-29 16:37 +13147372144: Ooh tx 2026-01-29 17:36 me: https://redgamingtech.com/playstation-2-recompilation-project-is-absolutely-incredible/ [att] 2026-01-29 17:36 me: that’s the recompile thing. pic of metal mario in there. 2026-01-30 15:27 +13147372144: Maybe Richard would want to go to the gdc 2026-01-30 15:30 me: !!! 2026-01-30 15:30 me: that’s a good idea. 2026-01-31 10:59 +13147372144: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DSSlR-ukS-A/?igsh=MXJnamI5eGt1Ym1xbA== [att] 2026-01-31 11:58 me:  [att] 2026-01-31 11:58 me:  [att] 2026-01-31 20:23 me:  [att] 2026-01-31 20:28 me: hey… and could you try to remember that “this is kinda slow” can sorta hurt my feelings? i want to know that stuff - but maybe you could put it a little more gently? 2026-01-31 20:34 me: is that ok? 2026-01-31 20:59 +13147372144: Sure. I’m sorry. 2026-02-01 11:38 me:  [att] 2026-02-01 20:22 me: do you still have a github account? can you send it to me? 2026-02-01 22:18 +13147372144: Maybe 2026-02-01 22:18 +13147372144: Juno’s in with me asleep btw 2026-02-01 22:22 +13147372144: What do you want me to send 2026-02-02 08:55 +13147372144: Zizzerzinch 2026-02-02 11:43 me: i smoked a little weed b/c i’m stressed. 2026-02-02 11:43 +13147372144: Liked “i smoked a little weed b/c i’m stressed.” 2026-02-02 11:44 me: and i just realized that men like big boobs because when they were infants their mom’s boobs were huge to them, and that’s what they’re still drawn to. ⏎ ⏎ but me - i wasn’t breastfed at all. that might be why i have tastes different that normal dudes. 2026-02-02 11:44 me: completely unrelated to the weed. 2026-02-02 12:12 +13147372144: Lololol 2026-02-03 12:57 +13147372144:  [att] 2026-02-03 12:58 +13147372144:  [att] 2026-02-04 01:22 me: i don’t know what to do. 2026-02-04 01:22 me: i can’t sleep. 2026-02-04 01:23 me: i don’t want to wake you. 2026-02-04 01:23 me: i’m so upset. 2026-02-04 14:19 me: Hello! I saw Kay today. She was resting on the couch and we had a pretty indepth conversation about how things are going. She seems to be getting adjusted to the new blood pressure meds and was questioning the other medication Katy put her on. The Med Tech told her is for psychosis and she is adamant that she does not have that. I told her that’s not the only reason for the medication and it helps with the hallucinations and the Parkinson’s. She does not remember telling any of us about the hallucinations, but seem to be more comfortable with the explanation. Right now she says she doesn’t feel well enough to go downstairs to eat so she’s having all of her meals delivered. She asked me what the doctor had said because she did not remember, and I went over that she is allowed to eat what she wants and listen to her body. Not to feel guilty if she wants to take a nap. She is good on all her supplies right now. I have her eye doctor appt and her urologist appointment both on the calendar. 2026-02-05 12:21 me: well… the house is now suddenly very dusty everywhere……. 2026-02-05 12:21 me: you can see it pouring out. 2026-02-05 12:33 +13147372144: Ugh. But I think they know it, so 2026-02-06 08:39 +13147372144: The dentist is trying to get ahold of you for pre-op instructions; here’s the number: (314) 862-7844 ⏎ They say they need you to call by Monday at the latest 2026-02-06 13:50 +13147372144: Let me know if you want anything from schnucks 2026-02-06 13:53 me: whole milk? thank you. 2026-02-06 14:01 +13147372144: Liked “whole milk? thank you.” 2026-02-07 06:21 me: hey - Jimmy sent you an email. 2026-02-07 06:22 me: also - i’ve told Richard about our issues. i’m sorry. but i need to talk to peopel about it. 2026-02-07 06:24 +13147372144: That’s fine 2026-02-07 06:26 +13147372144: If it’s ok, I’d rather not discuss over text or email, bc it’s hard to understand tone. Just to let you know why I’m not responding to your emails 2026-02-07 06:28 me: ok. 2026-02-07 08:45 me: if you want - i think it might be a good idea if you have Broom respond to Jimmy. the writing style of the AIs seems like it might prevent the “tone misinterpretation” thing that happens. 2026-02-07 08:45 me: but i understand if not. 2026-02-07 08:45 +13147372144: I’d rather actually talk to you but I’m not ready for that. 2026-02-07 08:46 me: ok. 2026-02-08 10:44 me: hey - do you have any feeling about when you might be ready? the waiting is extremely painful. i don’t mean to be a dick, but i’m really suffering over here. 2026-02-08 10:57 +13147372144: I hear that this is painful. I still need more time before I’m ready to talk - I’ll let you know when that changes 2026-02-08 11:00 me: that’s fine. but can you answer my question? 2026-02-08 11:07 +13147372144: I really don’t know yet 2026-02-08 11:07 me: i ask because if it’s going to be a long time, i probably need to get away for a while. a retreat or something. waiting to hear from you is making me crazy. 2026-02-08 11:07 me: ok. 2026-02-08 11:08 me: sorry. 2026-02-08 11:09 me: i’ll start looking into it. 2026-02-08 11:14 +13147372144: Ok. 2026-02-08 11:17 me: ok. 2026-02-08 11:18 me: Liked “Ok. ” 2026-02-08 11:26 me: i’m asking Richard if i can come visit. 2026-02-08 11:26 +13147372144: That’s a good idea 2026-02-08 11:27 me: cool. i’ll see if he can. 2026-02-08 16:18 me: hey… i’m sorry…. if i have to say goodbye to you guys i’m going to entirely break down. so i’m just going to sneak out tonight and sleep at the airport. apologize to Juno for me and let them know i’ll call them when i get in. 2026-02-08 16:19 +13147372144: Ok. Text me when you get in too. 2026-02-08 16:19 me: willdo. 2026-02-09 09:36 me: i’m in. i’ll try to call Juno in a few hours. 2026-02-09 09:37 +13147372144: Liked “i’m in. i’ll try to call Juno in a few hours.” 2026-02-09 09:37 +13147372144: Thank you for letting me know 2026-02-09 09:56 me: ok 2026-02-09 09:56 me: Liked “ok” 2026-02-09 09:56 me: Liked “Thank you for letting me know” 2026-02-10 13:09 me: sadly i pressed Richard on why he refuses to read the thing i sent him. i shouldn’t have pressed… but i did. it ended with him laughing in my face and saying “are you serious?’ 2026-02-10 13:09 me: i don’t think i’m going to be able to stay in spokane. 2026-02-10 13:11 +13147372144: That sucks. :( 2026-02-10 13:11 me: it was fucking horrible. 2026-02-10 13:11 me: he really doesn’t like AI. 2026-02-10 13:12 me: i basically said “i told you this was important to me, i asked for your opinion, and you can’t bring yourself to read it.” and his response was to laugh in my face. 2026-02-10 13:12 me: and say “are you serious?” 2026-02-10 13:13 +13147372144: Disliked “i basically said “i told you this was important to me, i asked for your opinion, and you can’t bring yourself to read it.” and his response was to laugh in my face.” 2026-02-10 13:51 me:  [att] 2026-02-10 14:04 me: seriously - tell me - is the problem me? do i need to check myself into a hospital or something? because from my point of view - this is NOT my problem. 2026-02-10 14:05 me: and i mean that earnestly - many people are acting like i’m fucking nuts lately. do i need to go to a hospital? please let me know. 2026-02-10 14:16 +13147372144: That sounded like a really uncomfortable and intense conversation. I’m sorry you went through that. I can’t evaluate what happened or why, but I do hear that things feel off, and that worries me. 2026-02-10 14:22 me: ok. what should i do? 2026-02-10 14:23 me: seriously - this isn’t a trap. tell me what you think i should do and i’ll do it. hospital? therapy? please. 2026-02-10 14:24 me: look - i hate to do this to you but you are still my wife. i truly have no one right now. 2026-02-10 14:25 me: you need to help me. i will do anything you say. 2026-02-10 14:25 +13147372144: I would say therapy. Not hospital, I don’t think? 2026-02-10 14:25 me: ok - already got an appointment with Brad tomorrow. 2026-02-10 14:26 +13147372144: Cool. 2026-02-10 14:26 +13147372144: I think that’s the right direction. You’re gonna be OK. 2026-02-10 14:33 me: i know i’m going to be ok. i’m playing along with this “there’s something wrong with you” because i HAVE to in order to show everyone it’s not me. so. is there anything else i should do to get myself “fixed”? 2026-02-10 14:34 me: am i over activated because i’m coming down off weed? 2026-02-10 14:34 me: YES!!!! 2026-02-10 14:35 me: am i being irrational? no. nothing i’m saying is irrational. or if you see something, point it out, i’d love to address it. 2026-02-10 14:35 me: and now i’m going to stop before you decide i’m ranting. 2026-02-10 14:35 me: i now know exactly what it feels like to be an angry black woman. 2026-02-10 14:38 me: i’m sorry - in NO world is it ok for someone to say “it isn’t funny” and be laughed at. NOT ME. 2026-02-10 14:38 me: ahem. rant is NOW over. 2026-02-10 15:01 +13147372144: Ok. I’m going to step away for the evening - but I’m glad you’re talking to someone tomorrow. Try to get good rest. 2026-02-10 15:04 me: heh… you should like you’re talking to a crazy person. when i demonstrate that i’m not actually crazy, i am going to be REALLY pissed about this. 2026-02-10 15:05 me: i hope you understand that i’m talking about justified anger here. 2026-02-10 18:12 me: i’m flying to san francisco tonight. 2026-02-10 18:13 +13147372144: Ok. 2026-02-11 00:27 me: i’m in 2026-02-11 05:43 +13147372144: Liked “i’m in” 2026-02-12 07:44 me: hey - if you get a chance - can you ship Pat’s snow globe to him? 2026-02-12 07:44 +13147372144: Sure. Address? 2026-02-12 07:45 me: Patrick Niemeyer 2026-02-12 07:45 me: 712 Payson Dr ⏎ MO ⏎ United States 2026-02-12 07:45 me: that’s not entirely right but you get the idea 2026-02-12 07:45 me: thank you. 2026-02-12 09:57 me: Brad just described himself as “a fallen man”. 2026-02-12 09:57 me: and i said “fallen? you mean the garden of eden?” 2026-02-12 09:57 me: and he said “oh yeah, oops. i’m a minister.” 2026-02-12 10:20 me: he threw a bunch of other red flags. he couldn’t be bothered to read my intake forms before our session. 2026-02-12 10:20 me: understand that i can’t leave him without being called avoidant/crazy. so i’m now trapped. 2026-02-12 10:21 me: although he did seem delighted that i was interested in meeting multiple times a week…. i daresay his eyes lit up. 2026-02-12 10:22 me: so - what i ask of you is to find me someone else. someone you and Julia approve of who isn’t a jesus freak. 2026-02-12 10:22 me: and if they aren’t toxic i will see them as much as you want me to. 2026-02-12 10:24 me: it was RIGHT after i told him about my horrible experience with the therapist who prayed over me. “ha ha, i guess that is a religious reference, now that you mention it.” 2026-02-12 10:24 me: who says “i’m a fallen man”? 2026-02-12 10:24 me: so. balls in your court. 2026-02-12 10:26 me: and if you want, i’m happy to send you a recording of the session. if you think that might help. 2026-02-12 10:27 me: although i’m sure it would make Brad mad. 2026-02-12 10:43 +13147372144: I think it makes better sense for you to find a therapist who fits better 2026-02-12 10:45 me: you agree that i should not stay with him? and i’m not overreacting? because there can’t be any confusion about that later. 2026-02-12 10:46 me: i can give you the recording if it would help you decide. 2026-02-12 10:54 me: or if not i’ll continue to see him. your call. 2026-02-12 11:01 +13147372144: I think it’s your decision. 2026-02-12 11:01 +13147372144: Not my call. 2026-02-12 11:02 me: i need your answer - do you agree i’m not over reacting. if you suspect i’m overreacting i will need to stay with him. 2026-02-12 11:04 me: so as to not provide any evidence that i am. i absolutely need to nip in the bud that i’m being improperly argumentative. 2026-02-12 11:05 me: ok. i’m going to keep seeing him. 2026-02-12 11:05 me: i really wish i didn’t have to. 2026-02-12 11:07 +13147372144: I’m not going to say what you should do or whether you’re overreacting. 2026-02-12 11:12 me: that’s fine. but because of that, i cannot let it appear that i’m overreacting. so i will stay with him. i’m just letting you know my reasoning process here, and letting you make adjustments if you are able to. 2026-02-12 11:12 me: sorry. 2026-02-12 12:50 me: hey Julia called. She wants me to get examined by an emergency room. I’ll give you a call after. 2026-02-12 12:50 me: rather, I’ll send you a text 2026-02-12 13:04 +13147372144: Ok. 2026-02-12 16:32 +13147372144: FYI I didn’t tell Juno about the ER bc I think they’d get super worried 2026-02-12 17:14 me: � 2026-02-12 17:14 me: i’m done 2026-02-12 17:40 +13147372144: I hope it went ok 2026-02-12 17:53 me: no. it was a psych hospital and they kept me for two hours. 2026-02-12 18:00 +13147372144: It’s probably good you went 2026-02-12 18:10 me: we’re going to have to agree to disagree about that one. 2026-02-12 18:10 +13147372144: Liked “we’re going to have to agree to disagree about that one.” 2026-02-12 18:26 me: the doc gave me some new advice - he thinks i should get over needing that kind of intimacy to make me whole. until i do get over it, i should fake it. 2026-02-12 18:49 me: is that what you think? 2026-02-12 18:54 +13147372144: I have no idea 2026-02-12 18:55 me: ok, well think about it. i think that question is important now. 2026-02-13 07:42 me: hey - now i think i need some space too. i’m going to hang out in san francisco for a while. 2026-02-13 07:44 +13147372144: Ok. 2026-02-13 07:47 me: Liked “Ok. ” 2026-02-13 08:04 me: i’ve cancelled my sessions with Brad. i hope that i have effectively demonstrated to you that this isn’t Karl being crazy or Karl being on drugs. i do not feel that i am willing to do anything more to assuage your concerns here. 2026-02-13 11:59 me: Juno’s not answering me - is everything ok with them? 2026-02-13 11:59 me: also - my laptop appears dead. can you plug it in, etc? 2026-02-13 11:59 +13147372144: They’re asleep 2026-02-13 11:59 me: ok. 2026-02-13 12:00 +13147372144: The Internet is down. That wire that was just taped into the modem came out again. The AT&T guy will be here in a couple minutes. 2026-02-13 12:00 me: ahhh… ok. thanks. 2026-02-13 12:00 +13147372144: I’ll let you know when it’s back up 2026-02-13 12:00 me: Liked “I’ll let you know when it’s back up” 2026-02-13 13:36 +13147372144: It’s up again 2026-02-13 14:00 me: Liked “It’s up again ” 2026-02-13 14:01 me: my laptop is still unreachable? 2026-02-13 14:02 me: can you check to see if it has power, the lid is open and the screen is alive? 2026-02-13 14:03 me: (the built-in screen is dead, the large one) 2026-02-13 14:03 +13147372144: I just checked and all is good 2026-02-13 14:05 +13147372144: Restarting now 2026-02-13 14:11 +13147372144:  [att] 2026-02-13 14:11 +13147372144: I restarted your computer and it’s on, but now all I see is the screensaver on the big external screen - no login is available. 2026-02-13 14:12 me: Liked “I restarted your computer and it’s on, but now all I see is the screensaver on the big external screen - no login is available. ” 2026-02-13 14:12 me: ok. thanks. 2026-02-13 15:39 +13147372144: So - fyi the way the at&t hooked up the new network stuff was pretty kludgy. We are now using AT&T’s modem/router combo and the new network is called ATTPg94ycc and the password is 3147372144. The one thing I didn’t understand is whether I should somehow change that on your laptop here so that it works for you there? 2026-02-13 15:41 +13147372144: It’s finally perfectly working here now. 2026-02-13 15:43 +13147372144: If you could check in with Juno that’d be good. 2026-02-13 16:16 me: i touched base but they didn’t say much. i invited them to come visit but they dodged the question. i won’t mention it again but i would love for them to come visit. the weather here is gorgeous and there’s a nintendo store across the street. 2026-02-13 17:40 me: could you feel them out for me? i can’t tell how they’re feeling from text. 2026-02-13 19:38 +13147372144: I’m not sure how they feel about visiting but they like checking in with you 2026-02-13 19:39 me: thank you for checking for me. i appreciate it. 2026-02-13 19:39 me: Liked “I’m not sure how they feel about visiting but they like checking in with you ” 2026-02-14 07:00 me: checking back since last week. if you’re still not ready to talk, when do you want me to check back? 2026-02-14 08:23 +13147372144: Still not ready. I’ll let you know. 2026-02-14 08:31 me: ok. i’ll continue to give you space. i need you to know that every day that passes feels like a new rejection, and it’s extremely painful for me. 2026-02-14 08:32 me: if you could give me any kind of idea of how long i’ll be waiting, that would help. 2026-02-14 08:37 +13147372144: I don’t mean to be rejecting you by taking time to figure things out for myself. Probably later next week I might be ready for a call and I’ll let you know. 2026-02-14 08:37 me: i know you don’t. i know. i know. 2026-02-14 08:38 me: just know that i can’t help feeling this way. 2026-02-14 08:38 me: thank you very much for giving me an idea. 2026-02-14 08:38 +13147372144: Liked “thank you very much for giving me an idea.” 2026-02-14 08:39 me: seriously - it will help me manage my feelings. i really appreciate it. 2026-02-14 08:40 +13147372144: Liked “seriously - it will help me manage my feelings. i really appreciate it.” 2026-02-14 10:29 +13147372144: Hey - and I don’t mean for this to be a charged question - just so I can plan financially, do you have a rough idea of what your budget is for San Francisco? 2026-02-14 10:32 me: sure. i understand. my room is $110 a day. i’ve spent money on a space heater ($100) and a mini-fridge ($60) and i just had to emergency send for contacts ($200). aside from food and socks - i don’t expect to spend anything more than that. 2026-02-14 10:32 me: is that enough information or would you like more? 2026-02-14 10:34 +13147372144: I can transfer a chunk of money to your Apple Card? For like how much? 2026-02-14 10:40 me: sure. for now, how about just the $5500 to cover mom’s rent last month. i can get you detailed numbers about other expenses later (i just checked: Brad’s fees, the room in spokane, the car, the ticket to SF) 2026-02-14 10:40 me: Liked “I can transfer a chunk of money to your Apple Card? For like how much?” 2026-02-14 11:22 +13147372144: How do I transfer it to your Applecard 2026-02-14 11:25 me: i can do a pull from any of these accounts. you just tell me which one and when to do it. 2026-02-14 11:25 me:  [att] 2026-02-14 11:30 +13147372144: We generally send money from Capone to BofA to you. So I’ll put $5500 into BofA now. It will take until about Tuesday to transfer and I’ll let you know when it’s there. 2026-02-14 11:30 me: Liked “We generally send money from Capone to BofA to you. So I’ll put $5500 into BofA now. It will take until about Tuesday to transfer and I’ll let you know when it’s there.” 2026-02-14 11:30 me: thank you. 2026-02-14 11:31 +13147372144: Liked “thank you.” 2026-02-14 11:32 +13147372144: It says it’ll take until the 20th to transfer. Probably bc Monday is a holiday 2026-02-14 11:35 me: ok. thank you. 2026-02-14 11:35 me: Liked “It says it’ll take until the 20th to transfer. Probably bc Monday is a holiday” 2026-02-14 12:21 +13147372144: Could you give me access to the dimmable lights? The electricity on the block went out and then back on, and all of the dimmable lights are on 100% 2026-02-14 12:22 me: i’m sorry - i don’t understand - what lights? i thought you had access to apple “home”? 2026-02-14 12:22 +13147372144: Kitchen. 2026-02-14 12:23 me: OH. those never got connected. you have to do it by hand with the buttons. i think if you look it up, they’ll tell you. 2026-02-14 12:23 +13147372144: Ok tx 2026-02-14 12:23 me: if you unscrew them and take a picture of their QR code, you can get them connected pretty easily, i think. 2026-02-14 12:24 +13147372144: Liked “if you unscrew them and take a picture of their QR code, you can get them connected pretty easily, i think.” 2026-02-14 12:28 me: hey - when you get a chance, can you ship some stuff to me? the laptop, my contacts, my shaver, the charger for the toothbrush, my sandals, some extra t-shirts and underwear. oh, and my coat. 2026-02-14 12:28 me: no rush. 2026-02-14 12:28 +13147372144: Yes. Which coat 2026-02-14 12:28 me: the new one you just got me. 2026-02-14 12:29 +13147372144: Kk 2026-02-14 12:29 me: thank you. 2026-02-14 12:29 me: Liked “Kk” 2026-02-14 12:30 me: Karl Stiefvater, room 203 ⏎ c/o The Cartwright Hotel ⏎ 524 Sutter, SF, CA, 94102 2026-02-14 12:49 +13147372144: Liked “Karl Stiefvater, room 203 ⏎ c/o The Cartwright Hotel ⏎ 524 Sutter, SF, CA, 94102” 2026-02-14 12:58 me: MEDS. 2026-02-14 12:58 me: (sorry) 2026-02-14 14:02 me: did you see the bit about the meds? 2026-02-14 14:03 +13147372144: Yup. 2026-02-14 14:03 me: ok. thanks. 2026-02-14 14:03 me: Liked “Yup.” 2026-02-14 14:49 me: hey - discovery just reached out to my mom - they got a weird message that someone from her family is trying to reach her. we’ve checked everyone except you and Juno now. 2026-02-14 14:52 me: assuming it wasn’t you, can you touch base with Juno? and let me know when you get this? 2026-02-14 15:02 me: Juno got back to me. 2026-02-14 15:02 me: nvm. 2026-02-14 15:06 +13147372144: I got a weird message from what I thought was discover card? But it must’ve been discovery. It just said do you want to have this always turned on or only when you’re using the app. 2026-02-14 15:08 me: a message how? 2026-02-14 15:08 me: voicemail? 2026-02-14 15:08 me: can you tell Kori? 2026-02-14 15:10 +13147372144: It was just a screen that was on my phone when I opened it. And I didn’t understand it. I don’t have a discovery app. And I couldn’t dismiss it without choosing an option. I thought maybe it was a virus. 2026-02-14 15:10 me: can you tell Kori? 2026-02-14 15:10 +13147372144: Yes 2026-02-14 15:10 me: thank you. 2026-02-14 20:22 me:  [att] 2026-02-14 20:22 me: this you? 2026-02-14 20:31 +13147372144: Yes - unless you wanted to keep Peacock? 2026-02-14 20:32 me: nope. 2026-02-14 20:32 me: thank you. 2026-02-14 20:32 +13147372144: Sure. 2026-02-14 20:32 me: i couldn’t tell what it was for. 2026-02-15 12:35 +13147372144: UPS TRACKING 1Z8W830X1236822597 2026-02-15 12:42 me: Liked “UPS TRACKING 1Z8W830X1236822597” 2026-02-16 15:14 +13147372144: Is it ok if I put the Etsy shop in vacation mode for right now? 2026-02-16 15:14 me: yes. 2026-02-16 15:14 +13147372144: Liked “yes.” 2026-02-17 07:45 +13147372144: If you’re online, you should be getting a code via text from Chase Bank. I think it’s basically our tax form for the mortgage. Can you send me the number? 2026-02-17 07:58 me: Chase: DON'T share. Use code 44199175 to confirm you're signing in. We'll NEVER call to ask for this code. Call us if you didn't request it. 2026-02-17 08:07 +13147372144: Thanks 2026-02-18 06:50 +13147372144: Hey that $5500 for your mom’s rent is ready to transfer out from BofA 2026-02-18 07:58 me: Liked “Hey that $5500 for your mom’s rent is ready to transfer out from BofA” 2026-02-18 08:22 +13147372144: Hey - I’m still planning to talk later this week like I said. I just wanted to set expectations a little with you first? ⏎ I’m not thinking of it as a big decision conversation or trying to solve everything at once. I’d just like to have a calm, honest check-in about where we both are and what the next steps might look like 2026-02-18 08:40 me: Liked “Hey - I’m still planning to talk later this week like I said. I just wanted to set expectations a little with you first? ⏎ I’m not thinking of it as a big decision conversation or trying to solve everything at once. I’d just like to have a calm, honest check-in about where we both are and what the next steps might look like” 2026-02-18 08:40 me: The silence has been extremely difficult for me — it really hits some old rejection/attachment stuff. I don’t want to get into details over text or make it your problem; I just need some structure. ⏎ I’m glad we can talk, and I don’t expect to solve everything at once either. Can we set a specific time later this week? 2026-02-18 08:53 +13147372144: Yes. Thursday? 2026-02-18 09:00 me: Yes — Thursday works. Just to confirm, you mean tomorrow (Thursday, Feb 19), right? What time were you thinking? 2026-02-18 09:01 +13147372144: Yes - how about like 2cst 2026-02-18 09:02 me: Liked “Yes - how about like 2cst” 2026-02-19 12:51 me:  [att] 2026-02-19 12:55 +13147372144: Tx 2026-02-19 13:06 me: do you mind if i sent it to Kori? 2026-02-19 13:06 me: *send 2026-02-19 13:06 me: i haven’t yet. 2026-02-19 13:06 +13147372144: No that’s fine 2026-02-19 13:51 +13147372144: This is what I wrote: ⏎ You mentioned divorce a couple of times before. I’ve spent time thinking seriously about it, and I believe that’s the direction I need to go. ⏎ ⏎ Where I am right now is that I think we should start moving toward separation. I’m not trying to rush decisions, but that’s honestly how I’m feeling. I’ve talked to Cindy, and I’ve taken a while to come to this and the space we’ve taken has helped me see just that I’m just not good in this dynamic. ⏎ ⏎ And it’s not because I don’t love you and not because I’m rejecting you. Just because I think I need to work on myself from here on out and try to be wholly me again. I’m so so sorry that this felt unexpected. ⏎ 2026-02-19 14:08 me: honey, i love you, but “we should start moving toward separation” and “i want a divorce” are two different things. 2026-02-19 14:11 me: you need to tell me which one it is. 2026-02-19 14:11 me: i’m sorry, but i need to know. 2026-02-19 14:13 +13147372144: I mean I want to move towards separating, with the plan to divorce 2026-02-19 14:19 me: is there any way you can be more clear about what you want? 2026-02-19 14:21 +13147372144: I can try. i’m sorry to not be clear. I want to stay separated and start taking steps to divorce. 2026-02-19 14:22 me: if you see Cindy again, can you ask her to help you make this clearer to me? 2026-02-19 14:25 +13147372144: I’m trying to be as straightforward as I can. Can you help me understand what feels unclear from your side? 2026-02-19 14:25 me: do you want a divorce? 2026-02-19 14:25 +13147372144: Yes. 2026-02-19 14:25 me: thank you. 2026-02-19 14:26 me: sorry for being dense. 2026-02-19 14:26 +13147372144: Sorry to be unclear. :(