role: user

text: say something like - for example, MO law provides no retirement protection.  if that's what we're going to do, there's not much i can do about it.  but i'd like to know before we get to mediation.


role: assistant

text:
Use this:

```text
For example, if the frame is Missouri law, then as I understand it there may be little or no retirement protection available to me. If that is the framework we’re going to use, there may not be much I can do about it. But I would like to know that before we get to mediation.
```


text: send this


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text: pull messages


text: Using the `messages` skill to pull the latest Lisa-thread window from the local Messages database.


text:
New from Lisa:

`13:19 CT`
```text
Basically, my plan is to understand what Juno and I need, what you need, what the state says, what the trust says, where the compromises might be, and how we can make it work. And to be as fair as we can be. I’m not going to fuck you over. I’m not a dick and neither are you.
```

`13:27 CT`
```text
My task is to figure out if I can handle paying you 30%, paying the household stuff plus Juno and me, and your mom, with no savings left.
```

`13:28 CT`
```text
Plus paying for a life insurance policy and probably half off the equity in the house to you.
```

So her live position appears to be:
- fairness matters, but she is explicitly including `what the state says` and `what the trust says`
- she is framing the problem as whether she can afford your earlier `30% + life insurance + house equity + mom` package without wiping out savings


text: i'd like to say - ok - that sounds extremely promising to me.


text:
Use this:

```text
Ok. That sounds extremely promising to me.
```


text: Sent exactly as saved in `outbox/messages/2026-03-27_to_lisa_that_sounds_extremely_promising.txt`.


text: instead of thinking of your costs in immediate terms - can you think about the total amounts?  my mom's care is not going to be much.  i'm not sure what you mean about Juno, are you planning on supporting them after they get out of college?  if not, then that is also a short term small amount.  (remember that Juno is already well cared-for with the trust principal.)  the house too.  all told - that's less than $1M which is less than 20% of the total.


text:
Use this:

```text
If you zoom out from the immediate month-to-month costs and look at the total amounts instead, the picture looks different to me.

My mom’s care is likely to be relatively limited from here. I’m also not sure what long-term support for Juno you are assuming. If you are not planning to support them indefinitely after college, then that is also a relatively limited item. And Juno is already a trust beneficiary.

The house is finite too. Taken together, all of that still looks to me like well under $1 million, which is less than 20% of the total resources we are talking about.
```

If you want, I can make it a little softer or a little more pointed.


text: Sent exactly as saved in `outbox/messages/2026-03-27_to_lisa_zoom_out_total_amounts_less_than_1m.txt`.


text: and i want to say this - i know you don't want to dick me.  but MO law is going to dick me.  it's an evil red state.


text:
Don’t send `evil red state`. It weakens the point.

Use this:

```text
I know you don’t want to fuck me over. My concern is that Missouri law may do exactly that. I see it as a very harsh and limited framework, which is why this question matters so much to me.
```

Harder version:

```text
I know you don’t want to fuck me over. My concern is that Missouri law may do exactly that. It is a harsh framework, and if that is the floor we are going to let control the outcome, then I need to understand that clearly now.
```

If you want, I can make it more political without making it sloppy.


text: it does not weaking my point because Lisa agrees with that position 100%.


text:
Fair.

If she shares that view, then the issue isn’t politics. It’s whether the line is sharp enough.

Use this:

```text
I know you don’t want to dick me over. My concern is that Missouri law will do exactly that. It’s an evil red-state framework, and that’s why this question matters so much to me.
```

Slightly tighter:

```text
I know you don’t want to dick me over. My concern is that Missouri law will do exactly that. It’s a cruel red-state framework, and that’s why I need to know whether we’re trying to do better than that.
```


text: send the first version


text: Sent exactly as saved in `outbox/messages/2026-03-27_to_lisa_missouri_law_will_dick_me.txt`.