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Latest new message from Lisa at `2026-03-26 14:17 CT`:

```text
One thing that I’m not sure Jennifer understands completely, is that you are asking not for transitional support for your living expenses, but for money that would be used solely for retirement. I think I have that right, at least.
```

Also, before that, she clarified:

```text
That’d be great. And I wouldn’t speak on your behalf. I would only make clear that these were Juno’s and my living expenses and not yours.
```

So the live issue now is her understanding that your ask is retirement-focused rather than transitional-living-expense support.


text: how should we respond?


text:
I’d correct her framing, not accept it.

Use this:

```text
Not exactly. The core issue is long-term retirement security, not just transitional support for my current living expenses. But I’m not asking for money that would be used solely for retirement in some separate sense. I’m asking for a structure that fairly addresses the long-term retirement imbalance created by the marriage.
```

Why this is better:
- accepts the `not just transitional support` point
- rejects the `solely for retirement` oversimplification
- keeps the focus on structure and fairness, not a segregated “retirement bucket”

If you want, I can tighten it further and make it more natural in text.


text: i don't want to clarify that point yet - it sounds like Lisa's trying to pin me down.


text:
Then don’t clarify it by text.

Her message is trying to lock in a simplified framing before mediation. You don’t need to help with that.

Best response:

```text
I think the exact framing of my ask is something better discussed in mediation than by text.
```

If you want it a little firmer:

```text
I’d rather not try to pin down the exact framing of my ask by text. That’s better discussed in mediation.
```


text: let's say something more like - i've explained to Jennifer my situation - i just need to know whether she needs my current numbers or the future numbers.  i don't understand why she didn't answer that question.


text:
Use this:

```text
I’ve explained my situation to Jennifer. What I need to know from her is whether she wants my current numbers or the future numbers I expect going forward. I don’t understand why that question wasn’t answered directly.
```


text: change "my" to "the".  and make it sound better please.  i hate it when you regurgitate me text back at me.


text:
Use this:

```text
I’ve already explained the situation to Jennifer. What I need to know is whether she wants the current numbers or the forward-looking numbers. That was the question I was trying to get answered, and I’m still not sure why it hasn’t been answered directly.
```


text: send this


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text: Sent exactly as saved in `outbox/messages/2026-03-26_to_lisa_current_or_forward_looking_numbers.txt`.