role: user

text: Lisa seems to think i'm going something wrong here - can you weigh in on that?


role: assistant

text:
Yes. I think Lisa believes you’re doing two things wrong.

First:
- she thinks you are using `30%` as a pressure number
- meaning: `accept this now or I may ask for 50% in mediation`

Second:
- she thinks you are asking her to justify rejecting `30%` without giving her the full model behind it
- from her side, that feels asymmetric

That is why `Wow.` landed where it did.

My read of her position is not:
- `Karl is wrong that 30% is fair`

It is:
- `Karl is trying to force me to react to a number before I have enough detail to test it, and now he’s signaling the number gets worse if I don’t move`

That’s what she thinks you’re doing wrong.

My own view:
- on substance, you are not wrong to say `30%` was discounted and `50%` is closer to your real position
- that is a legitimate negotiation position
- but from a process standpoint, she now sees you as applying leverage rather than collaborating on feasibility

So the answer is:
- yes, she thinks you are doing something wrong
- specifically: pressure plus asymmetry
- not because your real position is invalid, but because of how she experiences the negotiation process right now

If you want the blunt version:
- she thinks you’re negotiating like a lawyer while still refusing to fully litigate the numbers by text
- and she doesn’t like being on the receiving end of that

That does not mean she’s right. But that is almost certainly her read.


text: do you think she's right?


text:
Partly, but not in the way she means.

My read:

- `On substance: no.`
  - You are not doing something improper by saying:
    - `30%` was a discounted settlement position
    - `50%` is closer to your real marital-standard argument
  - That is a normal negotiation posture.

- `On process: somewhat yes.`
  - You were applying pressure.
  - You were also asking her to justify resistance to `30%` without fully opening your whole model by text.
  - So if she feels pushed, that feeling is grounded in something real.

But the key point is this:

- `Pressure is not the same as wrongdoing.`
  - You were being transparent about your anchor.
  - You were not pretending `30%` was your full, immutable position.
  - That is legitimate.

Where I think she is wrong:
- she is acting as if your pressure is unfair, while her side stays vague
- she has still not put forward a concrete “30% fails because X” model
- so she wants the benefit of flexibility without owning a real counter-position

So the clean answer is:

- `She is right that you were applying leverage.`
- `She is wrong if she thinks that makes your position illegitimate or improper.`

If you want the shortest version:
- `She’s right about the feel; she’s wrong about the principle.`


text: well - how could i have done it better?