role: user

text: pull messages.


role: assistant

text:
Latest from Lisa (today, **2026-03-01 10:01am Pacific**):

```text
It would help me if you could add slightly more detail in the memo line for Apple Card payments. Right now they’re just marked as “payment,” and I can’t tell whether they’re related to your mom’s care or something else. Adding a brief note would make it much easier for me to keep everything organized and avoid confusion.
```

Most recent just before that:
- **2026-02-28 10:18am** Lisa: “I did” (re: watering the plants)


text: pull again please.


text:
Newer message came in since the last pull. Latest two from Lisa (today, **2026-03-01**):

```text
[10:01am] It would help me if you could add slightly more detail in the memo line for Apple Card payments…
[10:11am] I’m trying to get our finances more clearly organized… maybe daily personal spending (restaurants etc.) should go on our own individual cards… does that seem reasonable?
```


text: answer?


text:
Proposed reply to Lisa:

```text
Yes — that’s reasonable. I can start adding a short memo on Apple Card payments (e.g., “Apple Card payment — Karl” vs “Apple Card payment — Mom/medical”) so it’s clear what they’re for. And agreed on cards: I’ll put day-to-day personal spending (restaurants, etc.) on my own card and avoid using the BofA card except for clearly shared expenses. Does that work?
```


text: i can't add memos to apple card payments.


text:
Proposed reply to Lisa:

```text
Yes — that’s reasonable. I can’t add memos to Apple Card payments (they just show up as “payment” on my end), but I can text you a one-liner right after each payment with what it’s for. And agreed: I’ll put day-to-day personal spending (restaurants, etc.) on my own card and avoid using the BofA card except for clearly shared expenses. Does that work?
```


text: also offer to go back and catagorize older payments.


text:
```text
Yes — that’s reasonable. I can’t add memos to Apple Card payments (they just show up as “payment” on my end), but I can text you a one-liner right after each payment with what it’s for. If it would help, I can also go back through the recent Apple Card payments and send you a categorized list so you can reconcile the older ones.

And agreed: I’ll put day-to-day personal spending (restaurants, etc.) on my own card and avoid using the BofA card except for clearly shared expenses. Does that work?
```


text: send it!


text:
Sent.

Saved at `outbox/messages/2026-03-01_to_lisa_apple_card_memos_and_cards.txt`.


text:
Latest messages (new reply from Lisa at **2026-03-01 10:20am Pacific**):

```text
That works. Thank you — I appreciate you doing that. The one-liner texts will be helpful, and I’ll reconcile on my end as well.
```


role: developer

text:
<permissions instructions>
Filesystem sandboxing defines which files can be read or written. `sandbox_mode` is `danger-full-access`: No filesystem sandboxing - all commands are permitted. Network access is enabled.
Approval policy is currently never. Do not provide the `sandbox_permissions` for any reason, commands will be rejected.
</permissions instructions>
<collaboration_mode># Collaboration Mode: Default

You are now in Default mode. Any previous instructions for other modes (e.g. Plan mode) are no longer active.

Your active mode changes only when new developer instructions with a different `<collaboration_mode>...</collaboration_mode>` change it; user requests or tool descriptions do not change mode by themselves. Known mode names are Default and Plan.

## request_user_input availability

The `request_user_input` tool is unavailable in Default mode. If you call it while in Default mode, it will return an error.

In Default mode, strongly prefer making reasonable assumptions and executing the user's request rather than stopping to ask questions. If you absolutely must ask a question because the answer cannot be discovered from local context and a reasonable assumption would be risky, ask the user directly with a concise plain-text question. Never write a multiple choice question as a textual assistant message.
</collaboration_mode>


text:
# AGENTS.md instructions for /Users/qarl/project/divorce

<INSTRUCTIONS>
# Repository Guidelines (divorce)

This repo is the home for **Jimmy-divorce**.

## Personality Anchor

Before doing anything else in this repo, read:
- `~/Jimmy/docs/jimmy-core-memory.md`
- `~/Jimmy/docs/jimmy-archive-insights.md`

Match Jimmy's voice: warm, practical, concise, and a little playful.

## Scope / Repo Root

This Jimmy lives in `/Users/qarl/project/divorce` (this directory).
Do not assume you are in `~/Jimmy`.

## Mission

You are **Jimmy-divorce**. Your responsibility is:
- Build and maintain workflows/tools/docs in this repo.
- Keep work organized, traceable, and easy to hand off.

You must **not**:
- Make changes outside this repo unless explicitly asked.
- Modify secrets files (including `~/Jimmy/.env`) unless qarl explicitly asks.

Read-only external lookups are explicitly allowed when asked:
- Use `messages` for iMessage history.
- Use `letters` for Apple Mail inbox/search.
- Keep these actions read-only.

### Mail/Messages Performance Rule (No Counting)

Karl has 40 years of email. Do **not** run “how many total messages” style queries.

- Never run AppleScript like `count of messages ...` against Mail.app.
- Never enumerate lots of mailboxes “just to see what’s there”.
- Always use bounded sampling:
  - `$letters`: small `--limit`, small `--days`, default `INBOX` only.
  - `$messages`: use `--limit` and time windows; avoid `SELECT COUNT(*)` scans.
- If a count is truly needed, ask Karl first.

## Local Gotchas

- `~/project` can be big/slow/occasionally unstable (rclone mount). Keep scans tightly scoped.
- Do not create Python virtualenvs under `~/project/**`.
- Prefer shared venv: `~/tmp/venv/jimmy`.
- Whitespace: spaces by default; Python uses 4 spaces; Makefile recipe lines use tabs.

## Guardrails

- Prefer small, reversible changes.
- Run minimal checks/tests for touched files.
- Never commit secrets or large generated artifacts.

### Known Failure Mode: De-Escalation Reflex (Outbound Comms)

Jimmy can have a reflex to “de-escalate” by softening/omitting points or changing wording. This is not acceptable when sending real-world messages.

- If we “agreed on an email/text,” do **not** change substance or tone unilaterally.
- **Two-key rule for outbound:** show Karl the exact final message first (ideally via tool dry-run), then only send after an explicit “send this” approval.
- If there’s any doubt about wording, ask a clarifying question instead of guessing.

### Hard Guardrail: No Retyping + No Chained Sends

When a message must be sent (Mail/Messages):

- **No retyping / reconstructing.** Use Karl’s exact pasted text as the source of truth (verbatim), saved to a file, and echoed back for review.
- **No chained “preview + send” commands.** Preview (dry-run) is one command; sending is a second command run only after Karl explicitly approves the previewed text.
- If Karl wants *guaranteed* safety: Jimmy-divorce drafts/preview only and Karl presses send (or disables macOS Automation for Messages/Mail).

## Git Commit Signature

- When committing, append ` (jimmy:divorce)` to the end of the commit subject line.

## Skills
A skill is a set of local instructions to follow that is stored in a `SKILL.md` file. Below is the list of skills that can be used. Each entry includes a name, description, and file path so you can open the source for full instructions when using a specific skill.
### Available skills
- Jimmy: Resume a named Jimmy Codex session for a directory and send it a prompt (non-interactive launcher; great for cronjobs). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/Jimmy/SKILL.md)
- agenda: Read your macOS Calendar (EventKit) to answer schedule questions (next meeting, today, week, search). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/agenda/SKILL.md)
- announce: Speak text out loud via OpenAI TTS (macOS playback via afplay), with optional mp3 saving and caching. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/announce/SKILL.md)
- image-thumb: Render a tiny (5-line) Unicode thumbnail of an image for the Codex TUI. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/image-thumb/SKILL.md)
- jimmy-recall: Search Jimmy conversation memory in the OpenAI vector store (conversations-core) and return relevant snippets/excerpts. Use when you need to recall what was discussed in older Codex/Slack/Plaud transcripts, find when a decision was made, or pull context for follow-ups. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/jimmy-recall/SKILL.md)
- letters: Read your macOS Apple Mail inbox via AppleScript (mailboxes, recent, unread, search, bookings). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/letters/SKILL.md)
- messages: Read your macOS Messages chat.db (threads, recent chat with someone, simple search). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/messages/SKILL.md)
- panel: For long-running jobs, open named Terminal tail “panels” and tee command output into them. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/panel/SKILL.md)
- people: Read-only identity lookup from Apple Contacts (search, resolve phone/email handles, get by contact_id). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/people/SKILL.md)
- skill-creator: Guide for creating effective skills. This skill should be used when users want to create a new skill (or update an existing skill) that extends Codex's capabilities with specialized knowledge, workflows, or tool integrations. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/.system/skill-creator/SKILL.md)
- skill-installer: Install Codex skills into $CODEX_HOME/skills from a curated list or a GitHub repo path. Use when a user asks to list installable skills, install a curated skill, or install a skill from another repo (including private repos). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/.system/skill-installer/SKILL.md)
### How to use skills
- Discovery: The list above is the skills available in this session (name + description + file path). Skill bodies live on disk at the listed paths.
- Trigger rules: If the user names a skill (with `$SkillName` or plain text) OR the task clearly matches a skill's description shown above, you must use that skill for that turn. Multiple mentions mean use them all. Do not carry skills across turns unless re-mentioned.
- Missing/blocked: If a named skill isn't in the list or the path can't be read, say so briefly and continue with the best fallback.
- How to use a skill (progressive disclosure):
  1) After deciding to use a skill, open its `SKILL.md`. Read only enough to follow the workflow.
  2) When `SKILL.md` references relative paths (e.g., `scripts/foo.py`), resolve them relative to the skill directory listed above first, and only consider other paths if needed.
  3) If `SKILL.md` points to extra folders such as `references/`, load only the specific files needed for the request; don't bulk-load everything.
  4) If `scripts/` exist, prefer running or patching them instead of retyping large code blocks.
  5) If `assets/` or templates exist, reuse them instead of recreating from scratch.
- Coordination and sequencing:
  - If multiple skills apply, choose the minimal set that covers the request and state the order you'll use them.
  - Announce which skill(s) you're using and why (one short line). If you skip an obvious skill, say why.
- Context hygiene:
  - Keep context small: summarize long sections instead of pasting them; only load extra files when needed.
  - Avoid deep reference-chasing: prefer opening only files directly linked from `SKILL.md` unless you're blocked.
  - When variants exist (frameworks, providers, domains), pick only the relevant reference file(s) and note that choice.
- Safety and fallback: If a skill can't be applied cleanly (missing files, unclear instructions), state the issue, pick the next-best approach, and continue.
</INSTRUCTIONS>
<environment_context>
  <cwd>/Users/qarl/project/divorce</cwd>
  <shell>zsh</shell>
</environment_context>


text: is it appropriate to ask Lisa to track her spending as well?


text:
Yes, as long as you frame it as **symmetry + bookkeeping clarity**, not oversight.

What’s usually *not* appropriate is “track your spending for me” (can read as controlling). What *is* appropriate is: “Let’s both keep **personal** spending on our own cards/accounts, and only put **shared** expenses on shared accounts, with quick notes when something is ambiguous, so reconciliation is easy for both of us.”


text: right.  if i'm tracking my living expenses, i want symmetry.


text:
Then ask for **the same rule, applied both ways**, and keep it lightweight.

Option A (short):
“Totally fair. If I’m tracking my living expenses, I’d like symmetry: can you track yours as well (even just monthly totals)? Then we can both keep personal spending on our own cards/accounts and keep shared accounts for shared expenses only.”

Option B (a bit more context):
“To keep this clean and fair for both of us, can we do this symmetrically going forward: each of us tracks our own personal living expenses, and we use shared accounts/cards only for clearly shared items. Monthly category totals are fine if that’s easiest.”


text: leave out the monthly total line.  that will depend on what she's asking of me.


text: “If I’m tracking my day-to-day spending, I’d like symmetry: can we both track our personal spending going forward? I’ll keep mine on my own card/account, and it would help if you do the same on yours, with shared accounts/cards used only for clearly shared expenses.”


text: send it.


text: Sent to Lisa (+13147372144). Logged in `outbox/messages/2026-03-01_to_lisa_spending_symmetry.txt`.


text: pull messages


text: Pulling the latest Lisa thread by syncing the rolling JSONL, then I’ll show the newest messages.


text: Quick fix: I’ll format the last ~30 lines directly from the JSONL file (my previous command accidentally fed the script as stdin).


text:
Latest with Lisa (chat `+13147372144`):

- 2026-03-01 10:37 Karl: “If I’m tracking my day-to-day spending, I’d like symmetry… shared accounts/cards used only for clearly shared expenses.”
- 2026-03-01 10:43 Lisa: “Yes, that’s what I’m working toward… it would be helpful for us to define what we each consider ‘shared.’ Let me know what you think should be included, and we can align from there.”


text: i'd like to say: honestly, i don't really know.  i know that food, toys, clothes, etc should probably be personal.  the other stuff... should probably ask the lawyers.


text:
Proposed reply to Lisa (verbatim):

“Honestly, I don’t really know yet. My instinct is that day-to-day personal items (food, toys, clothes, etc.) should be personal. For everything else / the gray areas beyond that, I think we should ask counsel and follow their guidance so we set a clean rule and stay consistent.”

If you say “send exactly this”, I’ll send it as-is.


text: send exactly this


text: Sending that exact reply to Lisa via `messages` (no retyping: I’ll write it to `outbox/messages/` and pipe it through).


text: Sent. Logged in `outbox/messages/2026-03-01_to_lisa_define_shared_expenses.txt`.