role: user

text: hey - do you remember our housing search?


role: assistant

text:
Yep.

Last time we were looking for a **furnished, month-to-month, entire-unit 1BR in San Francisco** (downtown-ish; Union Square/Tenderloin highrise OK), and you wanted me to **pre-screen listings** so you don’t see **404/deleted** junk. We were using Lisa’s Furnished Finder links plus Airbnb (entire place) and Craigslist.

Do you want to resume with the same criteria, and is the “real bedroom door” requirement back on for this temp place?


text:
no - i want to keep you dealing with Lisa and lawyers.  i created a sub-Jimmy for you in the housing dir.  can you stick a file in there that summarizes everything you can remember about our housing work?

basically, hand it off to him?


text:
I wrote the handoff for Jimmy-divorce-housing as `housing/HANDOFF.md` and committed it in the `housing` repo (`Add housing handoff note (jimmy:divorce-housing)`).

It summarizes Karl’s criteria + process constraints, and points to the detailed scan docs in `records/housing/` (`2026-02-22_sf_furnished_monthly_leads.md`, `2026-02-26_lisa_furnishedfinder_links_review.md`, `2026-02-26_sf_temp_furnished_1br_door_scan.md`).


text: can you refresh you memory about the last 30 days of $messages from Lisa?


text:
<skill>
<name>messages</name>
<path>/Users/qarl/.codex/skills/messages/SKILL.md</path>
---
name: messages
description: Read your macOS Messages chat.db (threads, recent chat with someone, simple search).
---

# messages

Read-only access to your macOS Messages database (`~/Library/Messages/chat.db`).

This is useful when you want the agent to answer things like:
- “What’s the latest from Alex?”
- “Summarize my last 20 messages with Mom.”
- “Search for ‘invoice’ from the past 30 days.”

## Permissions (macOS)

You will likely need to grant **Full Disk Access** to the terminal/Codex so it can read:

- `~/Library/Messages/chat.db`

System Settings → Privacy & Security → Full Disk Access.

If you use `messages send`, macOS will also prompt for **Automation** permission so
your terminal/Codex can control **Messages**:

System Settings → Privacy & Security → Automation → enable your terminal (or Codex) → **Messages**

## Usage

List recent threads:

```bash
"${CODEX_HOME:-$HOME/.codex}/skills/messages/messages" threads --limit 20
```

List recent messages across all chats (preview by default):

```bash
"${CODEX_HOME:-$HOME/.codex}/skills/messages/messages" recent --limit 25
```

Print full bodies:

```bash
"${CODEX_HOME:-$HOME/.codex}/skills/messages/messages" recent --limit 25 --full
```

Show recent messages with someone (best-match thread):

```bash
"${CODEX_HOME:-$HOME/.codex}/skills/messages/messages" chat "alex" --limit 30
```

Filter to recent days:

```bash
"${CODEX_HOME:-$HOME/.codex}/skills/messages/messages" chat "mom" --days 7 --limit 80
```

Search across all chats (text column only):

```bash
"${CODEX_HOME:-$HOME/.codex}/skills/messages/messages" search "invoice" --days 30 --limit 50
```

Extract links from message text:

```bash
"${CODEX_HOME:-$HOME/.codex}/skills/messages/messages" chat "alex" --links
```

Agent-friendly JSON:

```bash
"${CODEX_HOME:-$HOME/.codex}/skills/messages/messages" chat "alex" --json --limit 50
```

Send a message (explicit, guarded by `--yes`):

```bash
"${CODEX_HOME:-$HOME/.codex}/skills/messages/messages" send --to "+12815551212" --text "On my way." --yes
```

Dollar-sign gotcha:

- Your shell expands `$5,500` unless you **use single quotes** or **escape** the `$`.
- Safest pattern (no escaping needed): pipe the text via stdin.

```bash
cat <<'EOF' | "${CODEX_HOME:-$HOME/.codex}/skills/messages/messages" send --to "+12815551212" --text - --yes
Cost is $5,500.
EOF
```

## Notes (for agents)

- Prefer `--json` and summarize. Don’t paste huge transcripts unless the user asks.
- Sending is supported via `messages send`, but it defaults to a dry-run preview unless `--yes` is provided.

</skill>


text:
Yep. I just reloaded the last 30 days of your iMessage thread with Lisa (525 messages total; 298 from you, 227 from her) and here are the big threads + where they landed:

- **Lawyers / process**
  - You pressed on **postnup vs. life-insurance** (via Matt) and Lisa said Matt framed postnup as “marital contract, not trust,” and wasn’t recalling a specific prior exchange.
  - **Jennifer Rench withdrew**; you told Lisa and reconnected with **Sarah Wittrock** via Maya/Jones Family Law Group.

- **Housing (SF temp)**
  - Lisa sent multiple **Furnished Finder** links and a tip about using the **“Flexible dates / future availability”** toggle.
  - You reviewed them and found most were studios/outside SF/long minimums; one was “maybe” but looked like a kitchenette.

- **Finances / debts / renovations**
  - You asked for clarity on the **debt totals** and **renovation spend**, and pushed to preserve savings given legal/housing costs.
  - Lisa agreed to be careful; upstairs bathroom is mid-construction; she agreed to ask for a revised “remaining to complete” estimate + not-to-exceed + change orders.
  - You asked to treat **~$25k** as a hard cap on additional savings draw for the upstairs bathroom absent explicit agreement.

- **Mom**
  - Multiple messages about keeping your mom’s care **explicitly modeled** and not left vague, and keeping the current structure until counsel guidance.

- **Medical / surgery**
  - Lisa said dentist needed you for **pre-op instructions** (314-862-7844) and later suggested **medical financing** to preserve liquidity.
  - She named the product: **CareCredit**.
  - You asked about coming back to STL for surgery and a **~week at the house** with Juno/animals; Lisa said she’d think through logistics and later: “Once you have the date, we can coordinate logistics so it’s smooth for everyone.”

- **Shipping / stuff**
  - You asked her to ship “everything” from the dining room table pile (including Kate’s paintings), and clarified you wanted the box shipped but not the weed inside.

- **Newest “FYI”**
  - Lisa: **windshield crack**, ~**$700** repair with **$750** deductible.


text: actually - can you write all those messages to a file?  one of those newline json files, so we can just append to it later?


text:
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The user interrupted the previous turn on purpose. Any running unified exec processes were terminated. If any tools/commands were aborted, they may have partially executed; verify current state before retrying.
</turn_aborted>


text: timestamps and everything, please.  (and thank you!)


text:
Wrote the last 30 days of Lisa iMessages to newline-delimited JSON (timestamps + message_id + sender + text, etc.) at:

`records/communications/lisa_text_messages_last30d.jsonl`

Range in the file:
- first: `2026-01-29T10:53:37-08:00`
- last: `2026-02-27T14:28:40-08:00`

It’s committed, and you can append future exports as additional JSON lines (dedupe later by `message_id` if needed).


text: ok - do you remember the stuff about the "pause"


text:
Yes. Here’s the “pause” thread, in order:

- **2026-02-21 22:04 PST (you → Lisa):** you asked her to **pause before finalizing anything**, said it felt rushed, and asked for a **30-day pause** with a small structured set of conversations (therapist/mediator, agenda, ground rules).

- **2026-02-22 08:45 PST (Lisa → you):** she said she read it carefully, respected the direct ask, and needed **a couple days** to think so she could respond clearly (not just to ease tension).

- **2026-02-24 12:57 PST (Lisa → you):** she gave her full response:
  - said the space helped her face things more directly
  - said she does **not want a romantic/sexual partnership** (with anyone)
  - said she felt more steady/peaceful apart
  - said she **doesn’t want** another round of therapy/structured conversations **with the goal of reconsidering divorce**, and doesn’t want to create hope around a process she doesn’t think would change her decision

- **2026-02-24 13:15 PST (you → Lisa):** you accepted the “no therapy/mediation to reconsider” piece, and asked for a **timing pause** anyway: months rather than weeks (referencing Gelinda’s timeline), **before any filing/serving**, while still handling practical separation logistics.

- **2026-02-24 16:11 PST (Lisa → you):** she said she’s clear on direction, not trying to rush paperwork for its own sake, but emphasized the need for a **workable interim financial structure** month-to-month; she planned to talk to a lawyer about **legal separation / interim structure** and said she’s open to pacing thoughtfully if it’s fair/workable.


text: right.  exactly.  i need to let her know that i've changed my mind.


text:
Draft to Lisa (not sending yet):

“Lisa — I’ve been thinking more about our timing/pause conversation. I understand you’re clear about the direction, and I hear you that we need a workable month-to-month structure regardless. I don’t want to keep pressing for a pause before filing/serving. Let’s move forward with counsel and focus on getting an interim financial structure in place and keeping things as calm and low-friction as we can for Juno.”

If that’s the “changed my mind” you mean, say `send exactly this`. If you mean a different change (faster vs slower), tell me the direction and I’ll rewrite.


text: i had asked for a months-long timing pause.  i want to let her know that i no longer want that - and i think we should move ahead with the divorce.


text:
Draft (not sending yet):

“Lisa — I’ve been thinking more about our timing/pause conversation. I understand you’re clear about the direction, and I hear you that we need a workable month-to-month structure regardless. I’m no longer asking for a months-long timing pause before filing/serving. I think we should move ahead with the divorce and focus on doing it thoughtfully, with a workable interim financial structure, and as calmly as we can for Juno.”


text: send it.


text: Sent.