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With you only being back in CA since ~**Feb 10, 2026**, you likely **can’t file a CA divorce yet**: CA generally requires **6 months in CA + 3 months in the county immediately before filing**. ([leginfo.legislature.ca.gov](https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displayText.xhtml?article=&chapter=3.&division=6.&lawCode=FAM&part=3.&title=))
That would put the earliest SF-county date around **May 10, 2026**, and the earliest CA-divorce date around **Aug 10, 2026** (if you stay continuously).

What you *can* file in CA now is **legal separation** (no time requirement; one spouse must live in CA), and later **amend to divorce once you meet residency**. ([selfhelp.courts.ca.gov](https://selfhelp.courts.ca.gov/divorce-california/legal-separation))
But if Lisa is in MO, she can **object to CA jurisdiction**, and CA may be limited in what it can order (especially money/property), which could turn into an expensive forum fight. ([saccourt.ca.gov](https://saccourt.ca.gov/family/divorce.aspx/1000?utm_source=openai))

For **slowing down** if she files in MO: MO requires **90 days residency + 30 days after filing** before a dissolution judgment. ([revisor.mo.gov](https://revisor.mo.gov/main/OneSection.aspx?section=452.305))
And if one spouse **denies under oath** that the marriage is irretrievably broken, the court can **continue the matter 30 days up to 6 months** (and may suggest counseling). ([revisor.mo.gov](https://revisor.mo.gov/main/OneSection.aspx?section=452.320))

If you don’t want to message Lisa, the pragmatic next step is: **ask your collaborative lawyer** (1) whether a CA legal-separation filing would actually give CA power over support/property here, and (2) whether they can propose a **lawyer-to-lawyer standstill** (no one files for 30 days) without blowing up the collaborative track.


text: you're repeating yourself a lot.


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You’re right. Here’s the short, non-repeated version:

- **CA-first divorce:** not available to you yet (you’ve only been back since ~Feb 10).
- **Slow it down (best lever while staying collaborative):** get a **mutual standstill** agreement (no one files for 30 days) via counsel.
- **Try to get CA as the forum:** the only near-term move is **CA legal separation**, but it can trigger a **jurisdiction fight** and may not get you what you want on money/property if Lisa contests CA power.

If you want one clean next step: ask your collaborative lawyer, “Would CA legal separation actually give CA authority over support/property here, or just start a forum fight?”


text: no.  let's stop, ok?


text: Ok. I’ll stop here.