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Here’s the thread with Lisa going further back (I redacted a few obvious secrets like passwords/2FA codes, and your hotel address/tracking number):

```text
2026-02-12 13:04  Lisa: Ok.
2026-02-12 16:32  Lisa: FYI I didn’t tell Juno about the ER bc I think they’d get super worried
2026-02-12 17:14  me: [unprintable]
2026-02-12 17:14  me: i’m done
2026-02-12 17:40  Lisa: I hope it went ok
2026-02-12 17:53  me: no.  it was a psych hospital and they kept me for two hours.
2026-02-12 18:00  Lisa: It’s probably good you went
2026-02-12 18:10  me: we’re going to have to agree to disagree about that one.
2026-02-12 18:26  me: the doc gave me some new advice - he thinks i should get over needing that kind of intimacy to make me whole.  until i do get over it, i should fake it.
2026-02-12 18:49  me: is that what you think?
2026-02-12 18:54  Lisa: I have no idea
2026-02-12 18:55  me: ok, well think about it.  i think that question is important now.

2026-02-13 07:42  me: hey - now i think i need some space too.  i’m going to hang out in san francisco for a while.
2026-02-13 07:44  Lisa: Ok.
2026-02-13 08:04  me: i’ve cancelled my sessions with Brad.  i hope that i have effectively demonstrated to you that this isn’t Karl being crazy or Karl being on drugs.  i do not feel that i am willing to do anything more to assuage your concerns here.
2026-02-13 11:59  me: Juno’s not answering me - is everything ok with them?
2026-02-13 11:59  me: also - my laptop appears dead.  can you plug it in, etc?
2026-02-13 11:59  Lisa: They’re asleep
2026-02-13 12:00  Lisa: The Internet is down. That wire that was just taped into the modem came out again. The AT&T guy will be here in a couple minutes.
2026-02-13 12:00  me: ahhh… ok.  thanks.
2026-02-13 12:00  Lisa: I’ll let you know when it’s back up
2026-02-13 13:36  Lisa: It’s up again
2026-02-13 14:01  me: my laptop is still unreachable?
2026-02-13 14:02  me: can you check to see if it has power, the lid is open and the screen is alive?
2026-02-13 14:03  me: (the built-in screen is dead, the large one)
2026-02-13 14:03  Lisa: I just checked and all is good
2026-02-13 14:05  Lisa: Restarting now
2026-02-13 14:11  Lisa: [att]
2026-02-13 14:11  Lisa: I restarted your computer and it’s on, but now all I see is the screensaver on the big external screen - no login is available.
2026-02-13 14:12  me: ok.  thanks.
2026-02-13 15:39  Lisa: [redacted wifi details]
2026-02-13 15:41  Lisa: It’s finally perfectly working here now.
2026-02-13 15:43  Lisa: If you could check in with Juno that’d be good.
2026-02-13 16:16  me: i touched base but they didn’t say much.  i invited them to come visit but they dodged the question.  i won’t mention it again but i would love for them to come visit.  the weather here is gorgeous and there’s a nintendo store across the street.
2026-02-13 17:40  me: could you feel them out for me?  i can’t tell how they’re feeling from text.
2026-02-13 19:38  Lisa: I’m not sure how they feel about visiting but they like checking in with you
2026-02-13 19:39  me: thank you for checking for me.  i appreciate it.

2026-02-14 07:00  me: checking back since last week. if you’re still not ready to talk, when do you want me to check back?
2026-02-14 08:23  Lisa: Still not ready. I’ll let you know.
2026-02-14 08:31  me: ok. i’ll continue to give you space. i need you to know that every day that passes feels like a new rejection, and it’s extremely painful for me.
2026-02-14 08:32  me: if you could give me any kind of idea of how long i’ll be waiting, that would help.
2026-02-14 08:37  Lisa: I don’t mean to be rejecting you by taking time to figure things out for myself. Probably later next week I might be ready for a call and I’ll let you know.
2026-02-14 08:37  me: i know you don’t.  i know.  i know.
2026-02-14 08:38  me: just know that i can’t help feeling this way.
2026-02-14 08:38  me: thank you very much for giving me an idea.
2026-02-14 08:39  me: seriously - it will help me manage my feelings.  i really appreciate it.
2026-02-14 10:29  Lisa: Hey - and I don’t mean for this to be a charged question - just so I can plan financially, do you have a rough idea of what your budget is for San Francisco?
2026-02-14 10:32  me: sure.  i understand.  my room is $110 a day.  i’ve spent money on a space heater ($100) and a mini-fridge ($60) and i just had to emergency send for contacts ($200).  aside from food and socks - i don’t expect to spend anything more than that.
2026-02-14 10:32  me: is that enough information or would you like more?
2026-02-14 10:34  Lisa: I can transfer a chunk of money to your Apple Card? For like how much?
2026-02-14 10:40  me: sure.  for now, how about just the $5500 to cover mom’s rent last month.  i can get you detailed numbers about other expenses later (i just checked: Brad’s fees, the room in spokane, the car, the ticket to SF)
2026-02-14 11:22  Lisa: How do I transfer it to your Applecard
2026-02-14 11:25  me: i can do a pull from any of these accounts.  you just tell me which one and when to do it.
2026-02-14 11:30  Lisa: We generally send money from Capone to BofA to you. So I’ll put $5500 into BofA now. It will take until about Tuesday to transfer and I’ll let you know when it’s there.
2026-02-14 11:30  me: thank you.
2026-02-14 11:32  Lisa: It says it’ll take until the 20th to transfer. Probably bc Monday is a holiday
2026-02-14 11:35  me: ok.  thank you.
2026-02-14 12:21  Lisa: Could you give me access to the dimmable lights? The electricity on the block went out and then back on, and all of the dimmable lights are on 100%
2026-02-14 12:22  me: i’m sorry - i don’t understand - what lights?  i thought you had access to apple “home”?
2026-02-14 12:22  Lisa: Kitchen.
2026-02-14 12:23  me: OH.  those never got connected.  you have to do it by hand with the buttons.  i think if you look it up, they’ll tell you.
2026-02-14 12:23  Lisa: Ok tx
2026-02-14 12:23  me: if you unscrew them and take a picture of their QR code, you can get them connected pretty easily, i think.
2026-02-14 12:28  me: hey - when you get a chance, can you ship some stuff to me?  the laptop, my contacts, my shaver, the charger for the toothbrush, my sandals, some extra t-shirts and underwear.  oh, and my coat.
2026-02-14 12:28  me: no rush.
2026-02-14 12:28  Lisa: Yes. Which coat
2026-02-14 12:28  me: the new one you just got me.
2026-02-14 12:29  Lisa: Kk
2026-02-14 12:29  me: thank you.
2026-02-14 12:30  me: [redacted address]
2026-02-14 12:58  me: MEDS.
2026-02-14 14:02  me: did you see the bit about the meds?
2026-02-14 14:03  Lisa: Yup.
2026-02-14 14:03  me: ok. thanks.
2026-02-14 15:06  Lisa: I got a weird message from what I thought was discover card? But it must’ve been discovery. It just said do you want to have this always turned on or only when you’re using the app.
2026-02-14 15:08  me: a message how?
2026-02-14 15:08  me: voicemail?
2026-02-14 15:08  me: can you tell Kori?
2026-02-14 15:10  Lisa: It was just a screen that was on my phone when I opened it. And I didn’t understand it. I don’t have a discovery app. And I couldn’t dismiss it without choosing an option. I thought maybe it was a virus.
2026-02-14 15:10  me: can you tell Kori?
2026-02-14 15:10  Lisa: Yes
2026-02-14 15:10  me: thank you.
2026-02-14 20:22  me: [att]
2026-02-14 20:22  me: this you?
2026-02-14 20:31  Lisa: Yes - unless you wanted to keep Peacock?
2026-02-14 20:32  me: nope.
2026-02-14 20:32  me: thank you.
2026-02-14 20:32  Lisa: Sure.
2026-02-14 20:32  me: i couldn’t tell what it was for.

2026-02-15 12:35  Lisa: UPS TRACKING [redacted]
2026-02-16 15:14  Lisa: Is it ok if I put the Etsy shop in vacation mode for right now?
2026-02-16 15:14  me: yes.
2026-02-17 07:45  Lisa: If you’re online, you should be getting a code via text from Chase Bank... Can you send me the number?
2026-02-17 07:58  me: Chase: DON'T share. Use code [redacted] to confirm you're signing in...
2026-02-17 08:07  Lisa: Thanks

2026-02-18 06:50  Lisa: Hey that $5500 for your mom’s rent is ready to transfer out from BofA
2026-02-18 08:22  Lisa: Hey - I’m still planning to talk later this week like I said... I’d just like to have a calm, honest check-in...
2026-02-18 08:40  me: The silence has been extremely difficult for me... Can we set a specific time later this week?
2026-02-18 08:53  Lisa: Yes. Thursday?
2026-02-18 09:00  me: Yes — Thursday works... What time were you thinking?
2026-02-18 09:01  Lisa: Yes - how about like 2cst
```

Want me to keep going back to **Feb 1** (start of the blowup), or all the way back to **Christmas**?


role: user

text: no, that's good.  what do you think?


text:
My read: you’ve been pretty reasonable and concrete here.

- You consistently asked for clarity, structure, and next steps (and you got a clean “Yes” on **2026-02-19**). That’s useful and grounding.
- Your money/guardrails/budget thread is pragmatic and respectful; it reads like someone trying to keep things fair and functional.
- Lisa’s replies are mostly constructive boundary-setting: “not ready,” “need time,” “let’s get counsel,” “not cutting you off,” “maintain current structure temporarily,” plus coordination on collaborative counsel. That’s a workable posture.

Only real soft spot I see: when you’re activated you sometimes stack a few emotionally loaded lines (and the ER/hospital thread gets profane). It’s understandable, but if your goal is “plain + minimal fallout,” you’ll get closer by keeping texts short, factual, and one-ask-at-a-time when things are hot.


text: yeah, i thought my mom was dying.


text:
Totally fair. In that moment, “optimized wording” isn’t the job; getting through it is.

If you want a simple rule for future emergencies: one update line + one ask, like:

“Update: X happened, I’m doing Y. I’ll keep you posted. Can you do Z?”