role: user

text: ok - now - i need some more psychological advice - can you pull the recent conversation with my sister Kori?


role: assistant

text: Pulling your recent iMessage thread with Kori (bounded window + limit), then I’ll summarize and we can talk through it.


text:
Pulled your recent iMessage thread with **Kori Stiefvater Johnson** (`+1 281-818-5299`). The “recent” chunk is **Feb 21, 2026 3:54pm–6:56pm PT**.

**Key thing in it:** Kori texted Lisa directly, and Lisa replied (Kori pasted this to you):

> “It’s basically our dynamic. In it, I’m just getting smaller and smaller and more anxious all of the time. It’s not great for me and I don’t think things are that great for him either. We had really big issue earlier this month, and I took some space and he took some space and in that space I felt so relieved and peaceful for a change. And it had been a really long time since I had felt that way. And he had been talking about divorce and so I started thinking about divorce and I think I want to focus on myself for the next chapter of my life.”

**What I see psychologically (useful + risky):**
- Useful: you got a clear statement of Lisa’s *internal narrative* (shrinking/anxiety, relief during space, “next chapter”), which is probably the best “signal” you’ll get outside of direct conversation and counsel.
- Risky: the thread also has you reaching for a single-cause explanation (“it’s the money / conflict avoidance”), which may be a *possible* factor, but if you lock onto it you’ll burn a lot of emotional fuel without getting leverage.

If you tell me what you want help with, I’ll aim precisely:
1. Craft a short reply to **Kori** (thank her + set boundaries so she’s not a go-between)?
2. How to metabolize Lisa’s “getting smaller” message without spiraling?
3. How to reflect this back to Lisa later in a constructive way (without arguing the narrative)?


text: heh... i'm reaching for a single-cause, but i name two causes?


text:
Fair catch: you named **two**.

What I meant (and I can point to the exact lines) is that in the moment you were reaching for a *closed* causal story:

- “**the money is the only real thing that changed**.”
- “**I can’t imagine any other reason for the speed**…”
- “**conflict avoidance.**”

So it’s not literally single-cause; it’s more like “one (or two) dominant causes, and nothing else fits.”