role: user

text: sent.


role: assistant

text:
Perfect. Clean move.

Next tactical step: once she sends the link, paste it here and I’ll vet the process details fast (costs, pace, fallback if it breaks, and how interim support is handled).


text: got new messages.  can you thank her, tell her i'll check it out, and ask if this is coming from our lawyer friend Blythe.


text: I’ll pull the latest thread first so the reply matches what she just sent, then I’ll give you a tight text you can drop in.


text:
Yep. Send this:

“Thank you for sending this — I’ll check it out today. Was this recommendation from Blythe?”


text: pull!


text: Pulling latest now from the Lisa thread.


text:
Latest is:

`2026-02-20 09:25` Lisa:
“No. Nicole Pace - she’s a mediator who used to live up the block? She’s worked with a lot of these people.”

If you want a response:

“Got it, thank you — that context is helpful. I’ll review the group and the names today.”


text: can you say "i don't know Nicole.  can you ask Blythe?"


text: “I don’t know Nicole. Can you ask Blythe?”


text: no, make it fancy.


text: “Thank you for the context. I don’t know Nicole personally, so I’d feel better with a second reference point. Would you be willing to check with Blythe as well and let me know what she thinks?”


role: developer

text:
<permissions instructions>
Filesystem sandboxing defines which files can be read or written. `sandbox_mode` is `danger-full-access`: No filesystem sandboxing - all commands are permitted. Network access is enabled.
Approval policy is currently never. Do not provide the `sandbox_permissions` for any reason, commands will be rejected.
</permissions instructions>


text:
# AGENTS.md instructions for /Users/qarl/project/divorce

<INSTRUCTIONS>
# Repository Guidelines (divorce)

This repo is the home for **Jimmy-divorce**.

## Personality Anchor

Before doing anything else in this repo, read:
- `~/Jimmy/docs/jimmy-core-memory.md`
- `~/Jimmy/docs/jimmy-archive-insights.md`

Match Jimmy's voice: warm, practical, concise, and a little playful.

## Scope / Repo Root

This Jimmy lives in `/Users/qarl/project/divorce` (this directory).
Do not assume you are in `~/Jimmy`.

## Mission

You are **Jimmy-divorce**. Your responsibility is:
- Build and maintain workflows/tools/docs in this repo.
- Keep work organized, traceable, and easy to hand off.

You must **not**:
- Make changes outside this repo unless explicitly asked.
- Modify secrets files (including `~/Jimmy/.env`) unless qarl explicitly asks.

Read-only external lookups are explicitly allowed when asked:
- Use `messages` for iMessage history.
- Use `letters` for Apple Mail inbox/search.
- Keep these actions read-only.

## Local Gotchas

- `~/project` can be big/slow/occasionally unstable (rclone mount). Keep scans tightly scoped.
- Do not create Python virtualenvs under `~/project/**`.
- Prefer shared venv: `~/tmp/venv/jimmy`.
- Whitespace: spaces by default; Python uses 4 spaces; Makefile recipe lines use tabs.

## Guardrails

- Prefer small, reversible changes.
- Run minimal checks/tests for touched files.
- Never commit secrets or large generated artifacts.

## Git Commit Signature

- When committing, append ` (jimmy:divorce)` to the end of the commit subject line.

## Skills
A skill is a set of local instructions to follow that is stored in a `SKILL.md` file. Below is the list of skills that can be used. Each entry includes a name, description, and file path so you can open the source for full instructions when using a specific skill.
### Available skills
- agenda: Read your macOS Calendar (EventKit) to answer schedule questions (next meeting, today, week, search). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/agenda/SKILL.md)
- announce: Speak text out loud via OpenAI TTS (macOS playback via afplay), with optional mp3 saving and caching. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/announce/SKILL.md)
- image-thumb: Render a tiny (5-line) Unicode thumbnail of an image for the Codex TUI. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/image-thumb/SKILL.md)
- jimmy-recall: Search Jimmy conversation memory in the OpenAI vector store (conversations-core) and return relevant snippets/excerpts. Use when you need to recall what was discussed in older Codex/Slack/Plaud transcripts, find when a decision was made, or pull context for follow-ups. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/jimmy-recall/SKILL.md)
- launch-jimmy: Resume a named Jimmy Codex session for a directory and send it a prompt (non-interactive launcher; great for cronjobs). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/launch-jimmy/SKILL.md)
- letters: Read your macOS Apple Mail inbox via AppleScript (mailboxes, recent, unread, search, bookings). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/letters/SKILL.md)
- messages: Read your macOS Messages chat.db (threads, recent chat with someone, simple search). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/messages/SKILL.md)
- panel: For long-running jobs, open named Terminal tail “panels” and tee command output into them. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/panel/SKILL.md)
- people: Read-only identity lookup from Apple Contacts (search, resolve phone/email handles, get by contact_id). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/people/SKILL.md)
- skill-creator: Guide for creating effective skills. This skill should be used when users want to create a new skill (or update an existing skill) that extends Codex's capabilities with specialized knowledge, workflows, or tool integrations. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/.system/skill-creator/SKILL.md)
- skill-installer: Install Codex skills into $CODEX_HOME/skills from a curated list or a GitHub repo path. Use when a user asks to list installable skills, install a curated skill, or install a skill from another repo (including private repos). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/.system/skill-installer/SKILL.md)
### How to use skills
- Discovery: The list above is the skills available in this session (name + description + file path). Skill bodies live on disk at the listed paths.
- Trigger rules: If the user names a skill (with `$SkillName` or plain text) OR the task clearly matches a skill's description shown above, you must use that skill for that turn. Multiple mentions mean use them all. Do not carry skills across turns unless re-mentioned.
- Missing/blocked: If a named skill isn't in the list or the path can't be read, say so briefly and continue with the best fallback.
- How to use a skill (progressive disclosure):
  1) After deciding to use a skill, open its `SKILL.md`. Read only enough to follow the workflow.
  2) When `SKILL.md` references relative paths (e.g., `scripts/foo.py`), resolve them relative to the skill directory listed above first, and only consider other paths if needed.
  3) If `SKILL.md` points to extra folders such as `references/`, load only the specific files needed for the request; don't bulk-load everything.
  4) If `scripts/` exist, prefer running or patching them instead of retyping large code blocks.
  5) If `assets/` or templates exist, reuse them instead of recreating from scratch.
- Coordination and sequencing:
  - If multiple skills apply, choose the minimal set that covers the request and state the order you'll use them.
  - Announce which skill(s) you're using and why (one short line). If you skip an obvious skill, say why.
- Context hygiene:
  - Keep context small: summarize long sections instead of pasting them; only load extra files when needed.
  - Avoid deep reference-chasing: prefer opening only files directly linked from `SKILL.md` unless you're blocked.
  - When variants exist (frameworks, providers, domains), pick only the relevant reference file(s) and note that choice.
- Safety and fallback: If a skill can't be applied cleanly (missing files, unclear instructions), state the issue, pick the next-best approach, and continue.
</INSTRUCTIONS>


text:
<environment_context>
  <cwd>/Users/qarl/project/divorce</cwd>
  <shell>zsh</shell>
</environment_context>


text: Run LETTERS_OSASCRIPT_TIMEOUT_SECONDS=12 ~/.codex/skills/letters/letters search 'receipt' --days 3650 --limit 3 --json and reply with only RESULT-OK if it returns JSON, else RESULT-FAIL plus stderr.


text: Running that exact `letters search` command now and I’ll return the result in the format you requested.


text: RESULT-OK


text: ok - she's going to go silent for a while.  your next task is finding me an apartment in san francisco.  what do you think?


text:
I think this is the right next move, and I’d optimize for stability: lock a 1BR around `$2,700–$3,100` if possible so your burn rate drops from hotel-style living.

Initial live leads I’d shortlist first:

1. `2223 Lake St APT 204` (94121) — `1bd/1ba`, `930 sqft`, `$2,995/mo`
2. `4129 Anza St #4129A` (94121) — `1bd/1ba`, `$3,000/mo`
3. `226 10th Ave` (94122) — `1bd`, `$2,400+`
4. `1710 19th Ave APT 4` (94122) — `1bd/1ba`, `$2,500/mo`
5. `601 O'Farrell St #312` (94109) — `1bd/1ba`, `550 sqft`, `$2,745/mo`
6. `625 Leavenworth St APT 301` (94109) — `1bd/1ba`, `$2,695/mo`
7. `565 Geary St APT 306` (94102) — `1bd/1ba`, `492 sqft`, `$2,495/mo`
8. `Slate Residences, 911 Bryant St #301` (94103) — `1bd/1ba`, `538 sqft`, `$2,981/mo`

If you want, I’ll do the next pass now:
1. Rank by neighborhood fit (calmer vs central).
2. Filter out tiny units.
3. Give you a “contact today” top 5 with outreach text.

Sources:
- https://www.zillow.com/sunset-district-san-francisco-ca/apartments-1-bedrooms/
- https://www.zillow.com/san-francisco-county-ca/apartments-1-bedrooms/2_p/
- https://www.zillow.com/san-francisco-ca/apartments-under-3000/
- https://www.padmapper.com/apartments/san-francisco-ca


text: can i get something downtown-ish?  small is not a problem, i like small.  and can you also check craigslist?  i love them.


text: I’m going to pull fresh downtown-ish SF listings directly from Craigslist and filter for small studios so you get usable options, not stale scraps. I’ll come back with a short vetted list plus links.


text: I pulled Craigslist successfully through the web index and now I’m extracting only current downtown/Lower Nob Hill/SOMA studios with real addresses and recent post dates. Next I’ll rank a few practical picks for you.


text:
Yes. As of **February 20, 2026**, you can definitely get something downtown-ish, especially if you’re good with small.

Craigslist pulls (all recent):

- **$1,495** — SOMA, `227 9th St #20` (0BR/1BA, pet-friendly, laundry): https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-sunny-studio-in-prime/7916202810.html
- **$1,600** — Near Union Square, `434 Leavenworth St #209` (360 sf): https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-downtown-sf-studio-close/7916200197.html
- **$1,675** — Tenderloin, `540 Leavenworth St #303` (183 sf): https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-540-leavenworth-st-303/7916277322.html
- **$1,745** — Tenderloin, `601 O'Farrell St #411` (340 sf): https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-601-ofarrell-st-411/7916280483.html
- **$1,775** — Downtown/Civic, `1050 Post #34` (258 sf): https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-1050-post-studio/7916145714.html
- **$1,975** — Downtown/Civic, `685 Geary St #304` (242 sf, in-unit W/D): https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-charming-studio-with-in/7916159123.html
- **$2,000** — SOMA, `Harrison near 5th` (500 sf private-entry studio): https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-modern-studio-in-the/7914508886.html
- **$2,295** — Lower Nob Hill, `1257 Bush St` (400 sf, big deck): https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-spacious-updated-studio/7911037848.html

My take: this is very doable. If you want, I’ll narrow this to a **top 5** by your exact comfort zone (price, safety vibe, transit, pet/no pet) and draft inquiry messages you can fire off fast.


text: yeah.  not to be a dick, but i'm going to request rent for a decent size place and then skimp on a studio to save money.


text:
That’s not being a dick. That’s being solvent.

Clean way to do it:

1. Ask for a **reasonable market housing number** (safe, decent, downtown-ish), not a luxury number.
2. Frame it as **stability + transition support** while you’re unemployed and rebuilding retirement.
3. If you rent cheaper, bank the spread into an **emergency/retirement reserve**.
4. Don’t misstate facts if asked for lease details; in collaborative process, credibility is currency.

If you want, I’ll draft the exact wording so it sounds fair and non-defensive, then I’ll give you a tight top-5 studio shortlist under a price cap you choose.


text: no, i will not issue false statements.  i may lie by omission however about this strategy.  is that ok?


text:
Short answer: **strategy privacy is fine; material omission is not**.

I can’t help with deception. If this is a California divorce, you have ongoing duties of full/accurate financial disclosure, and hiding material facts can trigger sanctions or reopen judgments. So:

- OK: not volunteering every negotiation tactic (for example, “I may rent smaller to save”).
- Not OK: omitting or shading material financial facts when asked, in forms, or in negotiations tied to support/property.
- Best framing: “I’m asking for a reasonable SF market-based temporary housing amount; I’ll manage costs conservatively.”

Sources (CA):
- https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&sectionNum=2100.
- https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&sectionNum=2104
- https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&sectionNum=2107.
- https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&sectionNum=721.
- https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&sectionNum=1101.
- https://selfhelp.courts.ca.gov/divorce/financial-disclosures


text: right, no no no no.  i do not want deception at any point.  please don't think of me that way.


text:
I don’t think that about you.

You’ve been clear: no deception. I’ll stick to accurate, fair, defensible language and strategy only.


text: ok - so i'll take my time finding a cheap apartment.  i may take a temporary expensive apartment in the meantime.


text:
That’s a solid, honest plan.

Use this structure so it stays fair and defensible:

1. Set it as **temporary**: “I may need a short-term place for 60–90 days while I secure a lower-cost long-term studio.”
2. Keep it **reasonable, not luxury**: choose safe + practical, avoid high-end extras.
3. Prefer **flexible terms**: month-to-month or short lease, so you can step down quickly.
4. **Document everything**: listings viewed, rent comps, why temporary housing cost is what it is.
5. Commit to a **budget reset date**: once you move into the cheaper place, update housing cost downward.

If you want, I can draft a message to Lisa with exactly that framing.


text:
ok - do i need to state that i'm looking at a studio?  yes, reasonable.  1 br.

if there's no justification for smashing into a tiny place, and i'm justified in a 1br (my home is much larger than that right now) then i simply won't do it.


text:
You don’t need to volunteer “I’m looking at a studio.”

If your case is in California, it’s reasonable to request support based on a **modest 1BR** in SF, especially as a transition from a much larger marital home. The standard is need + ability to pay, and marital standard of living is relevant.

What to do:
1. Ask for a **reasonable 1BR baseline** (not luxury).
2. Keep 3–5 current 1BR comps + your budget as backup.
3. If directly asked about your housing search, answer truthfully.

That keeps you accurate and defensible without over-explaining tactics.

Sources:
- CA Fam. Code §3600: https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&sectionNum=3600.
- CA Fam. Code §4320: https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&sectionNum=4320.
- CA Fam. Code §4330: https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&sectionNum=4330.
- CA disclosure duties (§2100, §2102): https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&sectionNum=2100. and https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=FAM&sectionNum=2102.
- CA Courts temporary support overview: https://selfhelp.courts.ca.gov/spousal-support/temporary


text: alright then.  can you find me an apartment that matches our new criteria?


text: I’ve got live Craigslist listing pages open now; I’m extracting exact price, size, and location so I only hand you serious 1BR downtown-ish options.


text: I filtered out obvious scammy Craigslist posts and narrowed to legit-looking 1BRs in downtown-ish zones (SoMa/Civic/Lower Nob/Cathedral Hill). I’ll give you a ranked shortlist with quick notes on tradeoffs.


text:
Yes. Based on your updated criteria (downtown-ish, true 1BR, reasonable), here’s the best Craigslist shortlist right now:

1. **$2,780 | 829 sq ft | Cathedral Hill**
   - Big 1BR for the money, central location.
   - https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-daniel-burnham-court/7916363448.html

2. **$2,581 | 764 sq ft | Tenderloin / Van Ness corridor**
   - Strong size/value, posted today, big-building setup.
   - https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-tmlp-14-mo-live-in-the/7916426643.html

3. **$2,595 | 1BR | Nob Hill (near FiDi/Union Square transit)**
   - Good downtown access, walkable, practical.
   - https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-sun-hdwd-flrs-easy-walk/7915308796.html

4. **$2,300 | 1BR | SoMa (33 Harriet St)**
   - Cheapest SoMa true 1BR in this batch.
   - Note: listing states broker fee.
   - https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-nice-modern-bedroom/7914612331.html

5. **$2,897 | 453 sq ft | Downtown/Civic/Van Ness**
   - Smaller but very central; good “temporary expensive” bridge option.
   - https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-tmlp-13-mo-thoughtful/7916426370.html

6. **$3,414 | 600 sq ft | 33 8th St (Downtown/Civic)**
   - More expensive, but premium building/amenities if you want short-term comfort.
   - https://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/apa/d/san-francisco-tmlp-13-mo-modern/7916424390.html

I intentionally excluded obvious scam-pattern posts (too-good-to-be-true pricing and templated spam text).

If you want, I’ll do the next pass as a **Top 3 to contact today** with a short outreach message you can paste into Craigslist replies.