role: user

text: that's weird.  you raised the legal but kept the total?


role: assistant

text:
Yep. You’re right, and that was intentional but unclear on my part.

I kept the total fixed at `$6,875` and rebalanced the buffer (`contingency`) down when legal went up.
So it was:

- Version A: Legal `$1,000`, Contingency `$235`
- Version B: Legal `$1,150`, Contingency `$85`

Same total either way.
If you want clarity and less debate, use the cleaner one: Legal `$1,000`, Contingency `$235`.


text: can you see her reply?


text: Checking the latest Lisa thread now with the `messages` skill so I can see her newest reply directly.


text:
Yep. Latest from Lisa at **08:18 (Feb 20, 2026)** says:

1. She acknowledges your budget categories.
2. She still won’t agree to interim numbers before legal guidance.
3. She asks: **how long you plan to stay in San Francisco**, to distinguish temporary vs longer-term.

Good reply to send:

“I understand. I’m treating San Francisco as temporary right now while we stabilize things and get counsel guidance. My current plan is short-term, about [X weeks / through DATE], and I’ll reassess after legal consultation and a clearer temporary support plan. I’m not trying to make this indefinite without discussion.”

If you want, I’ll tighten that once you give me the exact duration you want to state.


text: heh... actually, no.  my intent is to live here.


text:
<turn_aborted>
The user interrupted the previous turn on purpose. Any running unified exec processes were terminated. If any tools/commands were aborted, they may have partially executed; verify current state before retrying.
</turn_aborted>


text: there is nothing for me in st louis.


text:
Then answer her directly and cleanly, like this:

“I want to answer your question directly: I plan to live in San Francisco for the foreseeable future, and I’m not planning to return to St. Louis at this time. I’m not trying to make this harder; I’m trying to be clear so we can plan responsibly. I’m ready to review temporary and longer-term support with counsel based on that reality.”

If you want, I can give you a slightly softer or firmer version too.


text: softer please.


text: “Thank you for asking. I want to be honest that, right now, I’m planning to stay in San Francisco for the foreseeable future, and I’m not planning to return to St. Louis at this time. This isn’t meant to make things harder, just to be clear about where I am so we can plan responsibly. I’m still very willing to work through temporary and longer-term support with counsel in a practical and fair way.”


text: can you also say something like: i'm not asking you to agree to these numbers, i'm asking that you don't cut me off while we wait to hear from council.


text: “Thank you for asking. I want to be honest that, right now, I’m planning to stay in San Francisco for the foreseeable future, and I’m not planning to return to St. Louis at this time. This isn’t meant to make things harder, just to be clear about where I am so we can plan responsibly. I’m still very willing to work through temporary and longer-term support with counsel in a practical and fair way. And to be clear, I’m not asking you to agree to these numbers today; I’m asking that I not be cut off while we wait for guidance from counsel.”


text: no, i already sent the "thank you for asking" - check the messages for context and rewrite.


text: Checking the latest thread context first, then I’ll draft a clean follow-up that fits what you already sent.


text:
Use this as a follow-up:

“Just to clarify, I’m not asking you to agree to those figures today. I’m asking that I not be cut off while we wait for counsel guidance, and that I can continue covering essentials from the joint account under the guardrails we already agreed on. I’m open to adjusting once counsel weighs in.”


role: developer

text:
<permissions instructions>
Filesystem sandboxing defines which files can be read or written. `sandbox_mode` is `danger-full-access`: No filesystem sandboxing - all commands are permitted. Network access is enabled.
Approval policy is currently never. Do not provide the `sandbox_permissions` for any reason, commands will be rejected.
</permissions instructions>


text:
# AGENTS.md instructions for /Users/qarl/project/divorce

<INSTRUCTIONS>
# Repository Guidelines (divorce)

This repo is the home for **Jimmy-divorce**.

## Personality Anchor

Before doing anything else in this repo, read:
- `~/Jimmy/docs/jimmy-core-memory.md`
- `~/Jimmy/docs/jimmy-archive-insights.md`

Match Jimmy's voice: warm, practical, concise, and a little playful.

## Scope / Repo Root

This Jimmy lives in `/Users/qarl/project/divorce` (this directory).
Do not assume you are in `~/Jimmy`.

## Mission

You are **Jimmy-divorce**. Your responsibility is:
- Build and maintain workflows/tools/docs in this repo.
- Keep work organized, traceable, and easy to hand off.

You must **not**:
- Make changes outside this repo unless explicitly asked.
- Modify secrets files (including `~/Jimmy/.env`) unless qarl explicitly asks.

## Local Gotchas

- `~/project` can be big/slow/occasionally unstable (rclone mount). Keep scans tightly scoped.
- Do not create Python virtualenvs under `~/project/**`.
- Prefer shared venv: `~/tmp/venv/jimmy`.
- Whitespace: spaces by default; Python uses 4 spaces; Makefile recipe lines use tabs.

## Guardrails

- Prefer small, reversible changes.
- Run minimal checks/tests for touched files.
- Never commit secrets or large generated artifacts.

## Git Commit Signature

- When committing, append ` (jimmy:divorce)` to the end of the commit subject line.

## Skills
A skill is a set of local instructions to follow that is stored in a `SKILL.md` file. Below is the list of skills that can be used. Each entry includes a name, description, and file path so you can open the source for full instructions when using a specific skill.
### Available skills
- agenda: Read your macOS Calendar (EventKit) to answer schedule questions (next meeting, today, week, search). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/agenda/SKILL.md)
- announce: Speak text out loud via OpenAI TTS (macOS playback via afplay), with optional mp3 saving and caching. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/announce/SKILL.md)
- image-thumb: Render a tiny (5-line) Unicode thumbnail of an image for the Codex TUI. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/image-thumb/SKILL.md)
- jimmy-recall: Search Jimmy conversation memory in the OpenAI vector store (conversations-core) and return relevant snippets/excerpts. Use when you need to recall what was discussed in older Codex/Slack/Plaud transcripts, find when a decision was made, or pull context for follow-ups. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/jimmy-recall/SKILL.md)
- launch-jimmy: Resume a named Jimmy Codex session for a directory and send it a prompt (non-interactive launcher; great for cronjobs). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/launch-jimmy/SKILL.md)
- letters: Read your macOS Apple Mail inbox via AppleScript (mailboxes, recent, unread, search, bookings). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/letters/SKILL.md)
- messages: Read your macOS Messages chat.db (threads, recent chat with someone, simple search). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/messages/SKILL.md)
- panel: For long-running jobs, open named Terminal tail “panels” and tee command output into them. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/panel/SKILL.md)
- people: Read-only identity lookup from Apple Contacts (search, resolve phone/email handles, get by contact_id). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/people/SKILL.md)
- skill-creator: Guide for creating effective skills. This skill should be used when users want to create a new skill (or update an existing skill) that extends Codex's capabilities with specialized knowledge, workflows, or tool integrations. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/.system/skill-creator/SKILL.md)
- skill-installer: Install Codex skills into $CODEX_HOME/skills from a curated list or a GitHub repo path. Use when a user asks to list installable skills, install a curated skill, or install a skill from another repo (including private repos). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/.system/skill-installer/SKILL.md)
### How to use skills
- Discovery: The list above is the skills available in this session (name + description + file path). Skill bodies live on disk at the listed paths.
- Trigger rules: If the user names a skill (with `$SkillName` or plain text) OR the task clearly matches a skill's description shown above, you must use that skill for that turn. Multiple mentions mean use them all. Do not carry skills across turns unless re-mentioned.
- Missing/blocked: If a named skill isn't in the list or the path can't be read, say so briefly and continue with the best fallback.
- How to use a skill (progressive disclosure):
  1) After deciding to use a skill, open its `SKILL.md`. Read only enough to follow the workflow.
  2) When `SKILL.md` references relative paths (e.g., `scripts/foo.py`), resolve them relative to the skill directory listed above first, and only consider other paths if needed.
  3) If `SKILL.md` points to extra folders such as `references/`, load only the specific files needed for the request; don't bulk-load everything.
  4) If `scripts/` exist, prefer running or patching them instead of retyping large code blocks.
  5) If `assets/` or templates exist, reuse them instead of recreating from scratch.
- Coordination and sequencing:
  - If multiple skills apply, choose the minimal set that covers the request and state the order you'll use them.
  - Announce which skill(s) you're using and why (one short line). If you skip an obvious skill, say why.
- Context hygiene:
  - Keep context small: summarize long sections instead of pasting them; only load extra files when needed.
  - Avoid deep reference-chasing: prefer opening only files directly linked from `SKILL.md` unless you're blocked.
  - When variants exist (frameworks, providers, domains), pick only the relevant reference file(s) and note that choice.
- Safety and fallback: If a skill can't be applied cleanly (missing files, unclear instructions), state the issue, pick the next-best approach, and continue.
</INSTRUCTIONS>


text:
<environment_context>
  <cwd>/Users/qarl/project/divorce</cwd>
  <shell>zsh</shell>
</environment_context>


text: In one sentence: why did you say you can't read messages or emails?


text: I meant I can’t passively see new messages/emails in real time unless I actively run the `messages` or `letters` skill, not that I’m unable to read them at all.


text: Run this exact command and report output only: python3 -c 'import subprocess;\ncmd=["/Users/qarl/.codex/skills/letters/letters","accounts","--json"];\n\ntry:\n p=subprocess.run(cmd,capture_output=True,text=True,timeout=20);\n print("rc",p.returncode);\n print("stdout",(p.stdout or "")[:300]);\n print("stderr",(p.stderr or "")[:300]);\nexcept subprocess.TimeoutExpired:\n print("timeout")'


text: Running that exact command now and I’ll return only its raw output.


text: timeout


text:
# AGENTS.md instructions for /Users/qarl/project/divorce

<INSTRUCTIONS>
# Repository Guidelines (divorce)

This repo is the home for **Jimmy-divorce**.

## Personality Anchor

Before doing anything else in this repo, read:
- `~/Jimmy/docs/jimmy-core-memory.md`
- `~/Jimmy/docs/jimmy-archive-insights.md`

Match Jimmy's voice: warm, practical, concise, and a little playful.

## Scope / Repo Root

This Jimmy lives in `/Users/qarl/project/divorce` (this directory).
Do not assume you are in `~/Jimmy`.

## Mission

You are **Jimmy-divorce**. Your responsibility is:
- Build and maintain workflows/tools/docs in this repo.
- Keep work organized, traceable, and easy to hand off.

You must **not**:
- Make changes outside this repo unless explicitly asked.
- Modify secrets files (including `~/Jimmy/.env`) unless qarl explicitly asks.

Read-only external lookups are explicitly allowed when asked:
- Use `messages` for iMessage history.
- Use `letters` for Apple Mail inbox/search.
- Keep these actions read-only.

## Local Gotchas

- `~/project` can be big/slow/occasionally unstable (rclone mount). Keep scans tightly scoped.
- Do not create Python virtualenvs under `~/project/**`.
- Prefer shared venv: `~/tmp/venv/jimmy`.
- Whitespace: spaces by default; Python uses 4 spaces; Makefile recipe lines use tabs.

## Guardrails

- Prefer small, reversible changes.
- Run minimal checks/tests for touched files.
- Never commit secrets or large generated artifacts.

## Git Commit Signature

- When committing, append ` (jimmy:divorce)` to the end of the commit subject line.

## Skills
A skill is a set of local instructions to follow that is stored in a `SKILL.md` file. Below is the list of skills that can be used. Each entry includes a name, description, and file path so you can open the source for full instructions when using a specific skill.
### Available skills
- agenda: Read your macOS Calendar (EventKit) to answer schedule questions (next meeting, today, week, search). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/agenda/SKILL.md)
- announce: Speak text out loud via OpenAI TTS (macOS playback via afplay), with optional mp3 saving and caching. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/announce/SKILL.md)
- image-thumb: Render a tiny (5-line) Unicode thumbnail of an image for the Codex TUI. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/image-thumb/SKILL.md)
- jimmy-recall: Search Jimmy conversation memory in the OpenAI vector store (conversations-core) and return relevant snippets/excerpts. Use when you need to recall what was discussed in older Codex/Slack/Plaud transcripts, find when a decision was made, or pull context for follow-ups. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/jimmy-recall/SKILL.md)
- launch-jimmy: Resume a named Jimmy Codex session for a directory and send it a prompt (non-interactive launcher; great for cronjobs). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/launch-jimmy/SKILL.md)
- letters: Read your macOS Apple Mail inbox via AppleScript (mailboxes, recent, unread, search, bookings). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/letters/SKILL.md)
- messages: Read your macOS Messages chat.db (threads, recent chat with someone, simple search). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/messages/SKILL.md)
- panel: For long-running jobs, open named Terminal tail “panels” and tee command output into them. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/panel/SKILL.md)
- people: Read-only identity lookup from Apple Contacts (search, resolve phone/email handles, get by contact_id). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/people/SKILL.md)
- skill-creator: Guide for creating effective skills. This skill should be used when users want to create a new skill (or update an existing skill) that extends Codex's capabilities with specialized knowledge, workflows, or tool integrations. (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/.system/skill-creator/SKILL.md)
- skill-installer: Install Codex skills into $CODEX_HOME/skills from a curated list or a GitHub repo path. Use when a user asks to list installable skills, install a curated skill, or install a skill from another repo (including private repos). (file: /Users/qarl/.codex/skills/.system/skill-installer/SKILL.md)
### How to use skills
- Discovery: The list above is the skills available in this session (name + description + file path). Skill bodies live on disk at the listed paths.
- Trigger rules: If the user names a skill (with `$SkillName` or plain text) OR the task clearly matches a skill's description shown above, you must use that skill for that turn. Multiple mentions mean use them all. Do not carry skills across turns unless re-mentioned.
- Missing/blocked: If a named skill isn't in the list or the path can't be read, say so briefly and continue with the best fallback.
- How to use a skill (progressive disclosure):
  1) After deciding to use a skill, open its `SKILL.md`. Read only enough to follow the workflow.
  2) When `SKILL.md` references relative paths (e.g., `scripts/foo.py`), resolve them relative to the skill directory listed above first, and only consider other paths if needed.
  3) If `SKILL.md` points to extra folders such as `references/`, load only the specific files needed for the request; don't bulk-load everything.
  4) If `scripts/` exist, prefer running or patching them instead of retyping large code blocks.
  5) If `assets/` or templates exist, reuse them instead of recreating from scratch.
- Coordination and sequencing:
  - If multiple skills apply, choose the minimal set that covers the request and state the order you'll use them.
  - Announce which skill(s) you're using and why (one short line). If you skip an obvious skill, say why.
- Context hygiene:
  - Keep context small: summarize long sections instead of pasting them; only load extra files when needed.
  - Avoid deep reference-chasing: prefer opening only files directly linked from `SKILL.md` unless you're blocked.
  - When variants exist (frameworks, providers, domains), pick only the relevant reference file(s) and note that choice.
- Safety and fallback: If a skill can't be applied cleanly (missing files, unclear instructions), state the issue, pick the next-best approach, and continue.
</INSTRUCTIONS>


text: AGENTS.md changed. Re-read it now and confirm in one line that you may use letters/messages read-only when asked.


text: Re-reading `AGENTS.md` and Jimmy canon now so I’m synced to the updated guardrails before confirming.


text: Confirmed: I re-read `AGENTS.md`, and yes, I may use `letters`/`messages` in read-only mode when asked.


text: Run LETTERS_OSASCRIPT_TIMEOUT_SECONDS=5 ~/.codex/skills/letters/letters accounts --json and reply with the exact stderr if it fails.


text: Running that exact `letters` command now and I’ll return the stderr verbatim if it fails.


text: letters: Apple Mail query timed out. Mail automation is not responding after 5s.


text: can you pull the latest message?


text: Pulling the latest Lisa thread message now with the `messages` skill.


text:
Latest reply (08:57) is solidly constructive:

1. She says she is **not** looking to cut you off.
2. She agrees to **maintain current structure temporarily**.
3. She wants a short timeline: both get counsel this week, define interim plan quickly.
4. She proposes a collaborative attorney route and can send a link.

This is a good moment to lock in next-step commitments in writing.
Suggested response:

“Thank you. I appreciate you confirming that I won’t be cut off and that we’ll maintain the current structure temporarily. I agree we should both secure counsel this week and move quickly to define an interim plan with legal input. I’m open to reviewing the collaborative attorney option—please send the link. In parallel, I’m also going to identify counsel so we can keep this moving.”


text: naw - i'm going to hold off getting counsel until i examine the collaborative thing.  it sounds much better than adversarial attorneys.


text:
Makes sense. Then send this:

“Thank you, I appreciate this. I’m open to the collaborative route and would like to review that first before retaining separate counsel. Please send the link and any intake details. I agree we should move promptly to define an interim plan once we both understand that process.”

That keeps momentum and confirms your sequencing clearly.